Feeling tired, resentful and like you’re always doing something for someone else?

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πριν 4 χρόνια 10:45

Are you feeling tired, resentful, and like you're always doing something for someone else?
In this episode, I unpack a conversation I had with my partner that goes through a simple metaphor as to why we're feeling tired and resentful.
This simple exercise helps us to see why we might be feeling this way and how we can change it!

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