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"What do you think about CALLING girls to arrange a date?"
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I've talked about in prior content the general ideas of soup texting and how to arrange a date. In this current clip I respond to a question about *calling* girls to arrange dates. It's like "oh wow *calling* girls, holy shit." In other words, if you're able to get the girl on the phone and have a short convo with her, wouldn't that theoretically increase the male's chances of securing a date? So I address this in the current clip. As I've discussed prior, the male is his most attractive when he is fully deregulated (i.e., 100% winging his interactions). Insofar as you maintain high approach volume, your non-neediness will be maximal, and natural attractive behaviors will manifest on your end. That is to say, the exact timing of when you text and what you say, or even whether you text vs call the girl, doesn't matter insofar as you are consistently approaching and are deregulated. However what I can say is that I never call girls. And that's not because I have an ego-based rule against it in any way. It's because I am consistent with approach and have high volume of contact acquisitions, so it's not a spontaneous behavior that ever manifests on my end. The greater the approach volume of the male, and the more contacts he picks up, the less likely he is to even consider calling girls. It's just not practical. The less the male meets new women, the more likely he is to affix longer-term, "what's the potential with this girl?"-type thoughts to any one girl he meets. This isn't about right or wrong. This is just a matter of the natural behaviors that manifest on the male's end as a result of the volume of approach he does. And even if one were to make the argument, "But what about, despite high numbers of contacts, you pick out one or two girls you liked more and then just call them? Can't you work in the habit somehow?" My response is: Once again, I just never call girls. And truthfully, I don't even care if it theoretically could increase the chance of meeting up with an occasional girl by 8%. If a girl doesn't meet up with me because I texted rather than called her, I'm okay not meeting up with that girl. It's called: you launch off high-volume texts and various ones will respond. Then just ask if they like coffee/tapioca, then arrange a time, then meet up. That's the process. It's not complicated. If you want to call girls because that's your deregulation, my advice is it's OK to experiment a bit and try it out for yourself. But it's important to note that as your approach volume increases and you acquire more contacts, the notion of calling girls will literally become laughable. When I was living in Australia with my old Italian housemate, for pure entertainment I decided to call a girl I had approached a few days earlier. It was funny because he knew the girl from one of his social circles on campus, and he was like, "You're calling her?" We laughed. I got the girl on the phone and we talked for maybe 5-10 minutes. I can't even recall whether I had tried to arrange a date with her during that short convo, but I do remember that we never ended up meeting up. And apart from that, I can't even remember the last time I've called a girl...
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Manage episode 287065702 series 2439125
Main blog - https://mikemehlman.net/
Patreon - https://www.patreon.com/mikemehlman
Instagram - https://www.instagram.com/mike_mehlman/
Facebook - https://www.facebook.com/mikemehlman.net
I've talked about in prior content the general ideas of soup texting and how to arrange a date. In this current clip I respond to a question about *calling* girls to arrange dates. It's like "oh wow *calling* girls, holy shit." In other words, if you're able to get the girl on the phone and have a short convo with her, wouldn't that theoretically increase the male's chances of securing a date? So I address this in the current clip. As I've discussed prior, the male is his most attractive when he is fully deregulated (i.e., 100% winging his interactions). Insofar as you maintain high approach volume, your non-neediness will be maximal, and natural attractive behaviors will manifest on your end. That is to say, the exact timing of when you text and what you say, or even whether you text vs call the girl, doesn't matter insofar as you are consistently approaching and are deregulated. However what I can say is that I never call girls. And that's not because I have an ego-based rule against it in any way. It's because I am consistent with approach and have high volume of contact acquisitions, so it's not a spontaneous behavior that ever manifests on my end. The greater the approach volume of the male, and the more contacts he picks up, the less likely he is to even consider calling girls. It's just not practical. The less the male meets new women, the more likely he is to affix longer-term, "what's the potential with this girl?"-type thoughts to any one girl he meets. This isn't about right or wrong. This is just a matter of the natural behaviors that manifest on the male's end as a result of the volume of approach he does. And even if one were to make the argument, "But what about, despite high numbers of contacts, you pick out one or two girls you liked more and then just call them? Can't you work in the habit somehow?" My response is: Once again, I just never call girls. And truthfully, I don't even care if it theoretically could increase the chance of meeting up with an occasional girl by 8%. If a girl doesn't meet up with me because I texted rather than called her, I'm okay not meeting up with that girl. It's called: you launch off high-volume texts and various ones will respond. Then just ask if they like coffee/tapioca, then arrange a time, then meet up. That's the process. It's not complicated. If you want to call girls because that's your deregulation, my advice is it's OK to experiment a bit and try it out for yourself. But it's important to note that as your approach volume increases and you acquire more contacts, the notion of calling girls will literally become laughable. When I was living in Australia with my old Italian housemate, for pure entertainment I decided to call a girl I had approached a few days earlier. It was funny because he knew the girl from one of his social circles on campus, and he was like, "You're calling her?" We laughed. I got the girl on the phone and we talked for maybe 5-10 minutes. I can't even recall whether I had tried to arrange a date with her during that short convo, but I do remember that we never ended up meeting up. And apart from that, I can't even remember the last time I've called a girl...
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