"Are your dates with plates different from your first dates?"

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I've talked about before how to get a girl back on a date, including driving the point that the ideal date is going to be one that is as short as possible. Greater than 97% of my first dates (and second dates with girls I haven't hooked up with yet) are very boring and streamlined: I meet a girl at a busy station not far from where I live, we go to a cafe of some kind, and then I go for the pull within 10-25 minutes. But the question I received a few days ago was specifically about the type of dates I have with established plates. That is, do I still focus on getting her back as quickly as possible where my dates are equally as streamlined and boring, or do I actually ever... ya know... have fun with the girls I see. And the answer is: No, my dates are never fun. And I'm always boring. This isn't me attempting to generate some kind of parody either. I'm being serious. I keep my dates very short regardless as to if I'm out with a plate or not. But in the case of a plate, the brevity of my dates is more to do with efficiency and just not wanting to waste time, as opposed to keeping things short so that the chances of a hookup are maximal. It's very rare for me to go on dinner-/drink-type dates. Even with plates, I practically never go for dinner. Once again, I'm boring. And any girl I see is probably okay with that, or prefers that. No I do not go bowling or to a pool hall. No I do not go to movies. And, again, very rare for me to go to dinner. But here's where I can provide a little bit of value apart from just voicing my preferences: Essentially my short, boring dating style is a natural result of my high volume of approach and meeting women, the same way my terse, 30-60-second cold approach convos are a function of my high volume. In other words, I don't have short, boring dates because I'm intransigently adherent to some arbitrary notion of how streamlined and alpha a date is supposed to be. I literally don't give thought to it. The same way my convos on the cold approach are hyper-short, well so are my dates. The assertion that one's approach volume is inversely related to his length of interactions is not a consideration that a male should force upon himself so as to "fake" the behavior of a high-volume male. In other words, a male need not artificially force his interactions to be hyper-terse because that's what I do. He should just be aware that as he approaches more both in the micro and macro, the natural proclivity will be toward him having shorter cold approach convos and dates, regardless as to if the latter are with plates or not. If you want to meet up with a plate in order to go bowling or to a movie, that's great. That's just not what I do. I'm aware I'm boring. But I'm also fast and direct pretty much always. And if my approach volume were to fall, I'd probably be inclined to invest more into "couple time" and my dates would become more extended. This is not speculation either. I observe it with other males as a function of their low approach volume along a sliding scale, where the lower the volume of the male, the more extended and "couple-like" his dates tend to be.

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