The Perils Of Marriage Counseling, Using SMART Contact, And More! (1/28/19) Marriage Helper Live podcast

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You accept responsibility for what you did. You're sorry that you hurt your spouse. You want to put things back together. Not just like it was before but better. The hurt you see in their eyes hurts you. At times their pain explodes in anger. Sometimes toward you; sometimes toward other things. You asked your spouse to forgive you. You told them how sorry you are that it happened. Yet your mate isn't reacting as you had hoped. Maybe they said that they can't forgive what you did. Maybe they haven't made a decision but their actions lead you to believe that when they do it isn't going to be good. Is there something you can do? Are there magic words? Actions? Will you have to live like this for years to come? Or are you already thinking that if they can't forgive, you can't stay because the pain you feel is too great? You don't want to live with a person in perpetual misery. Or everlasting anger. You accept that there are consequences to what you did but you don't feel that you can stay in the marriage only to be punished day after day. If you want your spouse to forgive you and move past where you are now, in this program Dr. Joe Beam explains what to do and what NOT to do. Dr. Beam also takes live calls about other relationship issues or advice you wish to ask about. This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, August 3, here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam. Be sure to check out more videos, audios, articles, and other resources for relationships at www.MarriageHelper.com.…

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Why Won't My Spouse Come Back? - Dr. Joe Beam 1:32:00

πριν 5 years1:32:00

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Your spouse left you for another person. But now the affair partner is gone. You thought that they were the problem. You expected your spouse to try to make amends with you. To come back sorry for what they had done. Instead, your mate has indicated little to no interest in restoring a relationship with you or trying to rescue your marriage. Why? Is it you? Are you so unlovely and unlovable that they have no desire to be with you ever again? Is it your mate? Have they become so selfish or hardened toward you that they won't ever care about you again? It's quite a blow to your self-esteem. The hope you had for reconciliation is fading quickly into cynical resignation that what was will never be again. Is there hope? Can someone explain what's happening? Give you direction for maybe making it work? In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains why spouses don't come back right away. He gives you an understanding of what's happening and how to use that knowledge to your advantage. He gives you the pathway to overcome the problem and eventually rebuild the marriage. Dr. Beam also takes live calls about other relationship issues or advice you wish to ask about. This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, July 27 here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam. Be sure to check out more videos, audios, articles, and other resources for relationships at www.MarriageHelper.com.…

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How Do I Get Past My Spouse's Cheating - Dr. Joe Beam 1:29:00

πριν 5 years1:29:00

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Your spouse cheated on you. Now they're back. Say they want to make the marriage work. You want to get beyond the pain, to have a better marriage than it was before. At times you think you're well on your way. Sometimes you think you'll never heal. Although you're trying to get past it and make your marriage good again, you hurt. Some days more than others. You find yourself reliving the lies, the devastating sense of loss, the violation of your trust. What do you do? End it and go your own way? Swallow the pain and do the best you can? Or find a way to heal your relationship and your heart. In this program, Dr. Joe Beam explains a pathway to healing from the deep hurt caused by your spouse's infidelity and deception. It takes time but you can find peace during the progress. If you don't progress, you'll live in pain much longer. That pain may lead to some very poor decisions or actions. Dr. Beam also takes live calls about dealing with healing from the pain your spouse's actions caused you, as well as other relationship issues or advice you wish to ask about. This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, July 20 here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam. Be sure to check out more videos, audios, articles, and other resources for relationships at www.MarriageHelper.com.…

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Why Focusing on Saving Your Marriage Won't Work - Dr. Joe Beam 1:29:00

πριν 5 years1:29:00

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Marriage in trouble? Love your spouse? Looking for solutions to save your marriage? If so, do NOT do the wrong thing that so many people do. The very things they do to salvage the relationship become the very things that help destroy it. In this live call-in program, Relationship Radio host Dr. Joe Beam explains which efforts to rescue your marriage work and, more importantly, which ones DON'T work. Our organization hears these words regularly, "I knew what I was doing was pushing my spouse away, but didn't understand why or how." In his work with couples in crisis over the last 26 years, Dr. Beam has guided thousands to understand why focusing on saving their marriage was the wrong thing to do and what they should be doing instead. In this program, he spends the first section explaining what you shouldn't do and what to do instead if you desire restoring your marriage and having a loving home again. Then, he takes live callers for the remainder of the program to answer your questions about your marriage. This program begins at 12:30 p.m. Central Time on Monday, July 6 here on BlogTalkRadio. You can also find it live (as well as recorded previous programs and hundreds more marriage and relationship videos) at YouTube.com/MarriageHelper. Call the program live at 657-383-0812. When you hear an answer, press 1 to be put in the queue to speak with Dr. Beam. Be sure to check out more videos, audios, articles, and other resources for relationships at www.MarriageHelper.com.…

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If You Love Someone, Let Them Go 1:04:00

πριν 5 years1:04:00

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You've heard it phrased in various ways. "If you love someone, let them go. If they come back to you, they are yours forever. If they don't come back, they never were yours." What a ridiculous idea! Maybe it originated with someone trying to help a friend feel better after her lover left her. Or perhaps it started with some guy trying to find a way to feel that it wasn't his fault that his relationship ended. It's wrong. No matter where it began or who says it. We've worked with thousands of couples where one wanted away from the other, denied loving their spouse (or used the "I love you but I'm not in love with you" bomb), or even were convinced that they love someone else. Even when it appeared all hope was gone, we've witnessed the majority of these couples who asked us to help turn things around be in love with each other again. Of course, no one seeks help if they follow that dumb idea of "let them go so that maybe they'll come back." Think like that and it IS over. In this program, Dr. Beam takes the first few minutes to explain WHY you should stand for your marriage rather than passively allowing it to end. He also explains WHAT to do that has the best likelihood of rescuing your lost love. For the remainder of the program, he answers questions from those who call in during the live show. It airs live on BlogTalkRadio, and on at www.YouTube.com/MarriageHelper on Monday, December 9, from 12:30 p.m. to 1:30 p.m. Central Time. You can watch or listen later to the recorded version, of course. To ask Dr. Beam your question, call 657-383-0812 during the live show. When you hear the answer, press the number 1 on your phone to get into the queue. For more about relationships, subscribe free to our YouTube channel mentioned above. Also, go to our website at www.MarriageHelper.com.…

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Spouse Says They Are Done, Marriage Helper Live 05/20/19 49:00

πριν 6 years49:00

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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions: “My husband told me he has an emotional block against me, and he does not have interest in saving the marriage and wants a divorce. I just found out I have cancer, and I want him to leave the house while I deal with getting better. Is there anything I can do to help him overcome the emotional block? If I ask him to leave, am I giving up any chance of saving the marriage?”“My wife is considering coming back, but she does not want to just come back because it is comfortable. How can I be patient while waiting for her to decide?”“My wife told me she is done. I am making trip to visit her for my son’s graduation (which is also her birthday and our anniversary). I am wanting to give her a gift. Is it ok to give her a present?”“My wife has had two affairs in the past three years. We have four children together. How can I save the marriage?”…

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Mid-Life Crisis, Limerence, & more, Marriage Helper Live 05/06/19 1:07:00

πριν 6 years1:07:00

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On today's live show, Dr. Joe Beam speaks with callers about the following questions: “My wife left me for our children’s music teacher. She is in another country. She is vilifying me. How do I save my marriage?”“Coming out of the end of a midlife crisis with limerence involved. How do I save my marriage?”“My husband of 25 years left me. He filed for legal separation. Is intervention a good option to bring him to talk?”“My husband had an affair after being married for 28 years. We haven’t talked in a long time. I want to share my heart. What do I do?”“My wife left me for my best friend after 8 years of marriage. Would you suggest that I stay in SMART contact or interfere with SMART contact to try to get her to attend the workshop?”“My husband is having an emotional affair with a coworker. He is confused on what to do. What should I do?” You’ll also hear about: SMART ContactPush behaviors…

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How Can I Help My Spouse Trust Me? The Valley &more Marriage Helper Live 3/18/19 1:16:00

πριν 6 years1:16:00

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On this episode of Marriage Helper Live, you’ll hear Dr. Joe Beam along with one of our Client Representatives respond to the following: “How does the valley work? How long does it last?” Signs of movement in the valley “Does the valley apply to other circumstances?” Dr. Joe Beam & Amber Nickle discuss a common question: “Is my spouse’s affair partner who they were actually meant to be with?” “I asked my husband if I could stay at his home while I wait to move into my apartment. He’s staying at his parent’s house until I move out. How can I initiate S.M.A.R.T. contact with him for him to stay at the house with me?” “We just filed for divorce. Should I still fight if I’m unsure?” “My wife feels like it’s too late to save our marriage, and she thinks I will never change. What should I do?” “How can I prove that she can trust me again after I’ve lied to her?” Other topics include: Limerence The Role of Client Representatives at Marriage Helper The #1 reason behind why you work on your PIES The grief process in relationships Self-esteem & the influence of others…

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πριν 9 years1:29:00