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Childhood Friendships
Manage episode 316506207 series 1443450
Question:
How do we come to terms with the closure of a childhood friendship? What are ways to find contentment and peace when that friend no longer reaches out to us?
Submitted by listener, Emily
our childhood BFFs
Research moment: 1 in 10 friendships survive into adulthood
- Children practice being a friend and there’s a learning curve.
- Children are learning how to be humans and learning relationship is part of that.
- Cultural misunderstandings – childhood friendships are backbones of our relational lives
Research shows that having childhood friendships matters, but social support is what really has an impact longitudinally.
Study with middle schoolers: http://www.llcsjournal.org/index.php/llcs/article/view/214
- Learning the effort of friendship from models and mentors in our lives
- Naming the complexities of relationship for one another
- Friendship sometimes lasts for a moment, a season, or a lifetime.
- Some friendships will end, every friendship doesn’t have to be a lifetime relationship
- The difference between guilt and shame when a relationship ends
- Listening to the Spirit and your spirit for deciding where to put effort in friendships
- Taylor Swift, Long Pond Documentary - https://www.disneyplus.com/movies/folklore-the-long-pond-studio-sessions/3Xlc0EjKtKpp
- values and personalities more important over affinities and interests
Research link: https://www.realsimple.com/work-life/family/relationships/why-adolescent-friendships-end
- Concordia Publishing House values article:
- Honor the past as well as the present of the relationship v adding expectations, honor the other person’s sacrifice as well
- Growth mindset that allows grieving but also growing up.
- Friendships are best when the individuals grow in them, even if that means growing apart
- some people grow in the same direction and some in different directions, both are growth
- Non-judgment and letting people who they are
- Effort, asking for what you need, asking for what they need
- How to let go: allow yourself some space to grieve and be disappointed, connect with God’s unchanging nature and friendship, experience grace around the friendship
- Honor it – reflect on good memories, consider what that relationship brought into your life and practice gratitude for the gift
- DBT with Dave – let the friendship be what it is ;)
Short answer: friendships have their seasons
100 επεισόδια
Manage episode 316506207 series 1443450
Question:
How do we come to terms with the closure of a childhood friendship? What are ways to find contentment and peace when that friend no longer reaches out to us?
Submitted by listener, Emily
our childhood BFFs
Research moment: 1 in 10 friendships survive into adulthood
- Children practice being a friend and there’s a learning curve.
- Children are learning how to be humans and learning relationship is part of that.
- Cultural misunderstandings – childhood friendships are backbones of our relational lives
Research shows that having childhood friendships matters, but social support is what really has an impact longitudinally.
Study with middle schoolers: http://www.llcsjournal.org/index.php/llcs/article/view/214
- Learning the effort of friendship from models and mentors in our lives
- Naming the complexities of relationship for one another
- Friendship sometimes lasts for a moment, a season, or a lifetime.
- Some friendships will end, every friendship doesn’t have to be a lifetime relationship
- The difference between guilt and shame when a relationship ends
- Listening to the Spirit and your spirit for deciding where to put effort in friendships
- Taylor Swift, Long Pond Documentary - https://www.disneyplus.com/movies/folklore-the-long-pond-studio-sessions/3Xlc0EjKtKpp
- values and personalities more important over affinities and interests
Research link: https://www.realsimple.com/work-life/family/relationships/why-adolescent-friendships-end
- Concordia Publishing House values article:
- Honor the past as well as the present of the relationship v adding expectations, honor the other person’s sacrifice as well
- Growth mindset that allows grieving but also growing up.
- Friendships are best when the individuals grow in them, even if that means growing apart
- some people grow in the same direction and some in different directions, both are growth
- Non-judgment and letting people who they are
- Effort, asking for what you need, asking for what they need
- How to let go: allow yourself some space to grieve and be disappointed, connect with God’s unchanging nature and friendship, experience grace around the friendship
- Honor it – reflect on good memories, consider what that relationship brought into your life and practice gratitude for the gift
- DBT with Dave – let the friendship be what it is ;)
Short answer: friendships have their seasons
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