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Episode 6: Drop the Guilt! How to Stop People Pleasing
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In this episode, I dive deep into the world of people-pleasing, exploring the behaviors, root causes, and emotional toll it takes on our well-being. If you find it hard to say "no," prioritise others' needs over your own, or fear rejection and conflict, this episode is for you.
I share personal experiences, real-life examples and actionable strategies to help you stop people-pleasing and reclaim your boundaries.
Key Takeaways:
Signs You’re a People-Pleaser:
- Difficulty saying "no," even when it’s inconvenient
- Seek external validation through helping others
- Over-apologizing unnecessarily
- Avoiding conflict by agreeing to things you don’t believe in
- Neglecting your own needs to prioritise others'
Root Causes of People-Pleasing:
- Fear of rejection and conflict
- Low self-worth and equating your value with how much you help others
- Childhood conditioning and the need to "stay safe" by being agreeable
Why People-Pleasing is Harmful:
- Leads to burnout, overwhelm, and resentment
- Creates unhealthy relationships where your needs are sidelined
- Keeps you stuck in a cycle of seeking external validation
How to Stop People-Pleasing:
- Start small by practicing saying "no" to minor requests
- Set clear boundaries and stick to them, even if it surprises others
- Develop self-awareness to recognize when you’re acting out of fear or obligation
- Learn to regulate your emotions and calm your nervous system (e.g., through heart-based emotional regulation techniques)
- Shift your mindset: understand that true friends and healthy relationships respect your boundaries
Resources Mentioned:
HeartMath techniques for emotional regulation - I can teach you this, email me for info.
Gabor Mate's book: When the Body Says No.
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