“It Happens to Boys”: Abused Men Are Still Minimized and Marginalized

Healing Conversations for Men Who Have Sex with Men

Carol Teitelbaum is a Marriage & Family Therapist and has been a licensed Therapist since 1985. Carol comes on the show to talk about abuse that has happened to our young boys and how this problem is still minimized in today’s society. She shares some common myths people have about men and abuse and how there’s a deep silence in the community for these men. She discusses the upcoming “It Happens to Boys” conference.

TAKEAWAYS:

[2:30] A little bit about Carol.

[2:40] Let’s talk about our boys. What happens to boys?

[3:20] Men do not get over sexual abuse. Men do not just ‘get over it’.

[6:30] Men have been told since they were little that they don’t have feelings.

[8:00] What myths are out there about boys and sexual abuse?

[9:10] Abuse is not about sex. It’s about power.

[11:00] Women abuse boys! Boys get very little empathy when they’ve been abused by a woman.

[15:40] Sexual intimacy goes way beyond just ‘putting it in’.

[21:00] How does Carol help someone who has been abused open up?

[25:50] What does the healing journey look like for men?

[29:50] What’s the difference between anger and rage?

[30:35] Let’s talk about the Creative Change Conference.

RESOURCES:

Creativechangeconferences.com

Menhealing.org

QUOTES:

• “People still think boys can’t be abused.”

• “Men who do not just get over it. Men who don’t get help or start their healing process, they rage because of all the emotions that they tucked away.”

• “I’ve heard men say, “If you really knew who I was, you’d think I’m disgusting.” It’s because they’ve been abused.”