Can you fix a toxic relationship? Healing trauma bonding

Dr Sarah: Heal Trauma Bonding

I get asked by my clients on a daily basis: Can I fix this relationship?
Well, it depends. Mostly on whether you are willing to take action to get out of victimhood and empower yourself. If the relationship is meant to be for you - this would be welcomed with open arms. If not, it's time to say goodbye - and you'll also feel grounded in doing so given the strength and resilience which you would have developed. So, are you willing to grow and get out of victimhood?
Here I talk about how your emotional home is supposed to be your safe space.
However, when you're in a place of receiving criticism or you have been betrayed - you no longer feel safe. The idea of safety is far fetched - and you believe you have to work extremely hard to 'be safe again' (i.e. be good enough).
You enter survival mode, desperately aiming to escape any form of criticism and judgement, while hoping that you may at some point be noticed and get told "you've done enough" and "you are enough".
If you BOTH REALLY want to repair a relationship after manipulation or disrespect, trust is mandatory. The hard part is building trust from the ground upwards (if anything, from sub-ground levels). BUT this can only really work if we mute defensiveness and tackle issues of shame that come up.
Learn how to take accountability and responsibility of your own growth so you can truly dictate how you would want to direct your relationship.

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