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Dr. Trevor Kashey can teach any intelligent person how to apply the scientific method so that they can be rational and constructive with themselves, other people, and the lives they lead. For over 15 years now, Dr. Trevor Kashey helps people just like you transform their minds, bodies, and lives - guiding them to feel good, and look great... by thinking straighter! Dr. Kashey's community regularly produces life-changing transformations resulting in 8 figure businesses, gold medals, and metri ...
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Welcome to Becoming with Lisa Loveland and Kosta Hantzis. This podcast is focused on helping you become the best version of yourself. And no matter where you are on that journey, we hope to bring you one step closer with every episode.
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Today, we're delving into the art of mental clarity with a unique guided exercise that sharpens your focus and fortifies your resolve. It's not about sweeping mistakes under the rug—it's about shining a light on them, learning, and moving forward stronger. Prepare to swap the comfort of familiar distractions for the thrill of conquering challenges.…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about Tabitha's journey through cognitive, emotional, and behavioral shifts towards activity. Tabitha challengeed her belief systems by weighing the pros and cons of physical activity. Through shame extermination and self-respect techniques, Tabitha learned to handle negative emotions linked to exercise, emphasisin…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about various techniques he used to help his client, Tabitha, overcome her self-destructive emotional disturbances and develop a healthier relationship with physical activity. He emphasizes acknowledging negative feelings as a motivator for improvement rather than a source of guilt and shame. Dr. Kashey explains ho…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the emotive aspect of the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model, focusing on Tabitha's journey in overcoming emotional disturbances and cultivating self-respect regarding physical activity. He explains the concept of "double trouble," where a practical problem escalates into an emotional disturbance, creating…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey continues his workshop on "How to Love Using Your Body" by focusing on the cognitive aspect of the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model. He introduces the concept of disputation, which involves detecting distorted belief systems, discriminating between rational and irrational thoughts, and debating the validity of these…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey continues his workshop on "How to Love Using Your Body" by exploring the Stimulus-Response-Outcome (SRO) model and the variable outcome principle. He explains how exposing a group of people to the same stimulus can lead to a variety of responses and outcomes, depending on their underlying belief systems. Dr. Kashey contr…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about his free workshop titled "How to Love Using Your Body, Even If It's Embarrassing, and It Sucks," which aims to help individuals overcome the frustrations and barriers associated with adopting an active lifestyle. He introduces the SRO (Stimulus-Response-Outcome) model, which focuses on addressing the cognitiv…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about a scientific study by researchers at Stanford University that analyzed the representation of food and drinks in popular movies. The study found that the on-screen diets portrayed in these movies vastly differed from the USDA nutrition guidelines, featuring low-fiber, high-sodium, and an abundance of unhealthy…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about how Tabitha, a recovered diabetic binge eater, approached Thanksgiving and other social gatherings without punishing herself or engaging in self-hate. He shares Tabitha's powerful story of overcoming her past struggles with overeating and purging during holidays. Dr. Kashey highlights Tabitha's newfound minds…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey discusses the concept of frustration intolerance and its manifestations in various aspects of life. He shares real-life examples of individuals like Sarah, Tabitha, and Justin, who exhibit frustration intolerance through behaviors such as impatience, emotional outbursts, procrastination, and self-sabotaging actions. Dr. …
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the concept of frustration intolerance and its detrimental effects, using the relatable story of Tabitha as an illustrative example. Tabitha's day is plagued by a series of frustrating setbacks from spilling coffee on her shirt to getting stuck in traffic and missing an important meeting. Unable to cope with …
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey discusses an essay by the famous French Renaissance philosopher, Lord Uncle Monta, titled "How the Soul Discharges Its Emotions Against False Objects When Lacking Real Objects." He shares amusing tips and insights from Monta's work, which humorously illustrates how people often vent their frustrations on inanimate object…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey discusses the concept of "mental toughness" and its potential pitfalls. He reads and analyzes an article by Professor Michael Easter, which critically examines the societal obsession with mental toughness and the flawed assumptions surrounding it. Dr. Kashey highlights how the pursuit of mental toughness through self-imp…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the importance of discriminating between frustrations that are worth addressing and those that can be ignored. He emphasizes that it is reasonable to live with some open loops, hassles, and mysteries in life, and attempting to resolve all of them can lead to a feeling of solving none. Dr. Kashey introduces th…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about frustration tolerance and how it plays a crucial role in managing frustrations effectively. He explains that frustration tolerance is the ability to think rationally and stay composed while experiencing frustrating situations. Dr. Kashey emphasizes that frustrations are inevitable, but it's our appraisal of t…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the importance of frustration tolerance and how it relates to the well-known Aesop's fable, "The Boy and the Filberts." He uses the tale as an illustrative example to demonstrate how rigid belief systems and a lack of frustration tolerance can lead to irrational and impulsive behaviors. Dr. Kashey explains th…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the concept of stress, particularly chronic stress, and its relationship with frustration. He explains that stress is a biological response to perceived threats or demands, rather than the cause itself. Dr. Kashey discusses how people often misuse the term "stress" to refer to stressors or frustrating stimuli…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the concept of frustration and annoyance, and how they can lead to anger if not managed properly. He explains that frustrations arising from the operational domain (being able to do what one wants) and the fairness domain (getting what one deserves) are particularly prone to causing annoyance. Dr. Kashey disc…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the rationale behind gradually increasing calorie intake during a fat loss phase, rather than continually decreasing calories. He explains that initially starting with a very low calorie intake allows individuals to improve their skills in measuring, tracking, and reporting their food intake accurately. As th…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the frustration aversion paradox and the concept of "double trouble," which are closely related to the phenomenon of procrastination. He explains that procrastination, often viewed as a practical problem, is actually fueled by emotional disturbance stemming from the frustration aversion paradox and the tenden…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the complicated relationship between frustrations, feelings, and rational thinking. He explores the concept of "provocation" and how it relates to motivation, explaining that feelings are the primary drivers of behavior and urgency. Dr. Kashey emphasizes the importance of integrating rational thinking with fe…
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In this episode Dr. Kashey emphasizes why it's important to view frustration as an event rather than just a feeling. He argues that when a frustrating stimulus blocks our progress, it generates thoughts, feelings, and urges the essence of STFU. But frustration itself is not inherently bad or negative. Dr. Kashey notes that overcoming frustrations i…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey challenges common notions about the true nature of frustration. Rather than an emotion, he frames frustration as an event obstructing our progress. When frustrations happen, the thoughts and feelings they provoke drive our reactions. While the phrase "I'm frustrated" expresses upset, Dr. Kashey argues feeling so is a cho…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey explores the second type of frustration aversion leading to the "frustration aversion paradox" procrastination, or as he calls it, "frustration aversion by delay." Dr. Kashey explains when frustration tolerance is low or frustration sensitivity high, people become highly impulsive and likely to make poor decisions. He ar…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey dives deeper into the psychology of frustration, analyzing the dysfunctional ways we often respond to frustrating situations. He highlights two common but distorted coping mechanisms "out of sight, out of mind" and "out of mind, out of sight." Though temporarily effective at avoiding frustration, Dr. Kashey explains how …
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey unravels the psychology behind our dysfunctional relationships with sex, drugs, and snacks. He keenly explains how suppression fuels obsession, with restriction intensifying rather than lessening compulsive desires. Dr. Kashey then insightfully exposes the false equivalencies people construct between food and substances,…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey shares a vulnerable post from Huggy, who opens up about his struggles with severe depression and suicidal thoughts. Even with mono taking a physical toll, Huggy explains how using the frustration framework - tracking data, crafting actionable tied-to variables under his control, and leaning on wisdom tools like "STFU" - …
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In this episode Dr. Kashey discusses the two main types of frustration aversion: outright avoidance/aversion (like George Costanza's unemployment scheme on Seinfeld) and delay/procrastination. He then breaks down outright aversion into two further categories: "out of sight, out of mind" and "out of mind, out of sight." Using examples like chronic d…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey explores the concept of the frustration paradox, a comedic exploration of why avoiding life's frustrations often leads to intensifying them. With a blend of philosophical inquiry and practical examples, Dr. Kashey navigates the complexities of human desires across operational, emotional, achievement, and fairness domains…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey explores frustration and how it impacts our actions offering a unique perspective on the interplay between stimuli, responses, and emotional outbursts.. With his signature wit, he looks at how people blame outside forces when frustration boils over, reflecting deeply rooted human habits. Through funny stories and smart o…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey explores how to apply the STFU approach not just to discrete frustrations but to address major chronic frustrations like overfatness. Minor frustrations will arise along the way, triggering urges to act impulsively and abandon constructive plans. However, Dr. Kashey explains why "going with your gut" feelings and urges p…
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In this extensive and thought-provoking episode, Dr. Kashey dives deeper into chronic frustrations - ongoing obstacles that spill across major life domains. He begins by reiterating the fundamental concepts of frustration, distinguishing between discrete and chronic frustrations, and highlighting their impact on the four domains of operational, emo…
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In this episode Dr. Kashey further classifies frustrations into "discrete" and "chronic" varieties. Drawing from his expertise and humor, he paints a vivid picture of how these frustrations manifest in our lives and affect our overall well-being. Discrete frustrations are temporary obstructions best handled by rationally assessing the situation and…
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Dr. Kashey takes a detour from his usual series to address a pressing question posed by one of the TKN’s kickstart challengers, Carrie. He tackles the common dilemma of finding satisfying substitutes for foods we crave. He cautions against restricting yourself from what you truly enjoy, as that often backfires into bingeing later. Instead, Dr. Kash…
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In this episode Dr. Kashey continues his exploration of frustration, offering a more concrete definition and framework for understanding this complex phenomenon. He examines dictionary definitions, leveraging his scientific background to arrive at a more precise conceptualization - frustration as an event or "stimulus" when we are obstructed from g…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey continues examining the powerful effect frustration has on our lives. Looking closely at the many ways people react to frustrating situations, he underscores how our beliefs shape our responses, which in turn determine what happens next. Urging self-reflection, Dr. Kashey argues we have more control over outcomes than we…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey embarks on a comprehensive exploration of the foundational components of frustration, exploring the intricate interplay of stimuli and responses that shape our diverse outcomes. Driven by his mission to understand and mitigate the impact of frustration on our lives, Dr. Kashey revisits critical concepts such as "double t…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey introduces the Frustration Sensitivity Index (FSI), providing a broad overview of where to focus cognitive, behavioral, and philosophical efforts. Exploring the discrete nature of frustrating events, he details the four frustration domains: operational, emotional, achievement, and fairness. Through personal experiences a…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey invites listeners to explore frustration and its impact on our lives. With the promise of practical solutions, Dr. Kashey introduces the Frustration Sensitivity index, a tool designed to assess one's presence of mind and build frustration tolerance. Before diving into the index, he emphasizes the importance of understand…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about frustration, exploring its diverse forms and its peculiar influence on our lives. From minor inconveniences like a frozen phone to major life-altering events such as becoming wheelchair-bound, he navigates through frustrations' operational, emotional, fairness, and achievement domains, showcasing the spectrum…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey embarks on a riveting exploration of frustration, dissecting its intricate influence on our lives and providing actionable insights on navigating its myriad manifestations. Opening with a thought-provoking analogy, Dr Kashey challenges whether many little frustrations culminate into a singular, overwhelming experience. D…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey talks about the nature of frustration, unraveling its complexities through the lens of language, symbolism, and individual interpretation. Dr. Kashey begins by highlighting the universal acknowledgment of frustration while emphasizing the varied and often comical definitions people ascribe. Delving into the symbolic powe…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey shares a guide through the frustrating journey of Jessica, a traveler whose meticulously planned trip takes an unexpected turn, leading to a cascade of irritations and setbacks. Dr. Kashey explores the multifaceted aspects of frustration, ranging from minor annoyances to overwhelming experiences. He skillfully weaves in …
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In part two of the accidental psychobiology of stress series, Dr. Kashey takes you through the intricate concept of resilience. This episode delves deep into the seven habits of highly resilient people, shedding light on the crucial elements contributing to one's ability to recover from distress and adapt to challenging situations. Dr. Kashey walks…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey takes an unexpected detour from the planned lesson on resilience and the psychobiology of stress. Dr. Kashey dives into a thought-provoking post from the group. A community member shares the ups and downs of their journey, expressing frustration despite notable successes. Dr. Kashey seizes this opportunity to discuss the…
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In today's session, Dr. Kashey explores the psychobiology of stress, emphasizing resilience and the ability to recover from and adapt to distress. This two-part episode explores the intricacies of stress and its potential to compound into what feels like a never-ending spiral. In part one, Dr. Kashey unravels the seven habits of highly resilient pe…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey delves into the practical applications of cognitive behavioral science in managing stress and preventing unwanted weight gain. He draws from previous lessons on stress and frustrating stimuli, translating theory into real-world strategies. Dr. Kashey explains how historical approaches to stress management were primarily …
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Today, Dr. Kashey talks about stress and everything it entails. He unravels the complexity behind this term, tracing its origins to a fascinating historical mistranslation from Hungarian scientific works. Dr. Kashey guides listeners through the confusion stemming from the physics and biological definitions of stress and strain, shedding light on ho…
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Welcome to a new episode where Dr. Kashey discusses the intricate and sometimes frightening field of the psychobiology of the human stress response. Dr. Kashey courageously navigates the complexities of how stress can manifest into detrimental health effects, impacting our bodies and minds. The episode breaks down the stress response into six key s…
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In this episode, Dr. Kashey addresses a fundamental yet often overlooked aspect of human behavior: the battle between control and influence. With his trademark wit and wisdom, he emphasizes the importance of understanding the negative consequences of an obsession with control and the benefits of shifting our perspective to influence. He shares how …
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