327: Transforming shame into power. Yes, it’s possible. (ft. Jason Lange & Luke Adler)

Dear Men: How to Rock Sex, Dating, and Relationships With Women

What are you most ashamed of? Is it your sexuality -- how much you want and need sex, or your deep-down cravings that you fear others would judge if they knew about? Is it your yearning for love, your desire to be held or seen or known in some fundamental way?

Many of the biggest breakthroughs we've witnessed in clients have come when they've headed directly into shame, been witnessed with compassion, and come out the other side.

It is almost inevitable that releasing shame builds power, which is often electrifyingly transformative. Shame around sex, relationship, love, need, weakness, neediness, and desire is normal. It's human. But it doesn't have to be paralyzing; in fact, it can be catalyzing.

Here, Jason and Luke share personal stories of shame, and we outline the process of transforming shame into power. Learn about the Heart of Shadow men's group and retreat at heartofshadow.com - use coupon "dearmen" when you register!

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Memorable quotes from this episode:

• “If we don’t feel strong or powerful or directive in our lives, we will feel the tinge of shame.”
• “I was terrified to be asked to do something that I didn’t know how to do.”
• “What wants to be said to your ex-wife? What’s incomplete there?”
• “Whatever you’re not feeling is where all your vitality is stuck.”
• “I got to feel a boyish curiosity come back!”

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Mentioned on this episode:

• DM 305 GuyTalk: Overcoming religious trauma