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Welcome to The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast with hosts Kim Ades and Ferne Kotlyar! Listen in as the mother-daughter duo discuss our unique coaching approach to topics such as leadership, entrepreneurship, HR issues, relationships, parenting, mental health, and more. In each episode, Ferne brings a topic or case study to the show and Kim shares her on-the-spot insights. You’ll learn how to shift your perspective on relatable challenges so that you can experience dramatically better results!
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They say that the journey of 1000 miles begins with the first step, but they always neglect to tell you how many twists and turns will happen along the way. In today’s episode of the FOM Coaching™ Podcast, we are absolutely elated and excited to welcome Wally Bressler to the show. In this episode, he shares his journey through addiction, abuse and …
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It seems like everywhere you look, there is a couple in love. Whether you are at a theme park, a party or even the mall, love is everywhere. But how do you find that perfect match for yourself? Today on a brand new season of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast, we are excited to welcome Polina Solda, CEO of Love by Design, to answer this very big q…
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Since the pandemic, we’ve heard the same argument over and over again. Which one is better: working from home or going into the office? On today’s episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast, we have a special guest to discuss exactly that. Ann Gomez, Founder of Clear Concept Inc. and author of Workday Warrior, shares the benefits of each scenar…
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This episode is a little bit of a sad one because it will be Ferne’s last episode as my co-host. My little girl (who’s not so little) is growing up. She’ll need this time to focus on her PhD and head to the tropics for fieldwork. In this last episode together, we talk about transitions. We talk about moving from one phase of life to another: a new …
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How do we tell someone that is important to us something that might hurt their feelings? How do we break the news to them without making them feel terrible? Should we tell them at all? Of course, it depends on what we are trying to tell them, but the questions still remain. Find out in this new episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast! https:…
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How do you lead a team that has no official leader? How do you please everyone while maintaining a cohesive vision? Do you become the self-appointed leader? If so, how do you earn everyone’s respect? How do you make your ideas infectious? Navigating the world of leadership and group productivity is complicated no matter what position you’re in. Tun…
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At work, everyone is part of the same culture. They all celebrate Christmas and Easter and don’t realize that some people celebrate other things. I feel like I don’t fit in. Every time I do something different or mention a different holiday, they look at me like I’m an alien. How could I possibly fit it? Listen to this new episode of The Frame of M…
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We all know that feeling when life piles up and the lack of sleep starts to hit us like a ton of bricks. But exhaustion is more than just the lack of sleep. Exhaustion is emotionally charged; it’s the feeling that you don’t have time to sleep because you have so many things to do. It’s the feeling that you can’t take a rest because the world would …
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To be or not to be? To go or not to go? To buy or not to buy? Big or small, we make decisions on a daily basis, so why do some decisions feel so much harder to make? Of course, there are the morally ambiguous, socially precarious, dramatic and life changing decisions that are understandably difficult. But sometimes, super simple, insignificant deci…
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Do you ever feel like it’s never enough? Achieving goal after goal, all you want is more. You want people to recognize you; you want people to realize how damn hard you’re working. You want to be at the top, but once you get there, there is always a new ladder to climb. This chase for validation is not only exhausting, but it leaves us only tempora…
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This week’s episode of the Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast is all about practical tips for networking. We talk about how to prepare, how to impress, and how to make the best out of conferences. We also talk about what to do if networking isn’t really your thing and how to help yourself by helping others. Join the conversation! https://www.frameofmi…
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What makes some people incredible at delegating a group, sparking creativity, and igniting passion in others? What makes an incredible leader? The answer is in the way they think. In this episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast, Ferne and I discuss the top three thinking strategies that incredible leaders have in common. Join the conversatio…
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We cannot see eye to eye with everyone. Sometimes, we disagree with the opinions or thoughts of our clients. But what happens when we fundamentally disagree with their values and beliefs? How do we continue to see them in the best light even when we don’t align? Listen to this new episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast here! https://www.fra…
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This week, we have a series of firsts. It is the first time Ferne and I interview a podcast guest together. And it is the first time we have Dr. Denim Slade, my own personal coach (because I think even coaches need a coach) live on the show. Denim is one of the few PhD-level relationship coaches in the world and is well known for developing the C.O…
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One ostrich, five kids, a forged signature, and the police; what more could you want from a story? Tune in to this week’s episode of the Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast to hear the story of one of the FAKs (Friedman, Ades, Kotlyar) Family’s favourite childhood memories. This episode is light and breezy, but insightful, nonetheless. Wanna know more?…
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You won’t always agree with the ideas people on your team put forward, but there’s a difference between an idea you don’t quite like and an idea that is just downright terrible. How do you convince your team that this is an awful idea without sounding like an asshole? Listen to this new episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast to find out! ht…
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As a society, we are ultimately very lucky to have access to birth control and be able to decide when or if we want to have children. The issue is that, for many women, birth control is less than ideal. Be it a pill or an IUD, these contraception options act primarily by altering the hormone levels in your body, which can make you emotional, irrita…
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You can’t be good at everything, especially not right off the bat. But sometimes, that concept is hard to grasp when you keep trying and trying and you don’t feel as though you’re getting any better. Ferne has been playing tennis for months now, and she doesn’t feel like she’s improving; she gets frustrated when she loses or misses the ball. She kn…
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We all know that one person who doesn’t know how to say no. It doesn’t matter what it is, this person will sacrifice themselves time and time again just to make others happy. But just like all other sacrifices, this one comes at a cost. It’s tiring to be a people pleaser, their schedule fills up, and they run out of time for themselves. They may ev…
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This week, Kim and Ferne get real. Kim evenly balances her coaching with her mothering as she gives Ferne advice about her struggles as a new Ph.D. student. Ferne talks about someone who has seemingly set her back by giving her heavy criticism, but Kim helps her see that some of our biggest critics are actually some of our biggest supporters. Join …
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As I’m sure we have all recently heard, Queen Elizabeth died. Every media outlet covered it, not hesitating to tell us that many of the royals went to pay their respects right before she passed. I wonder what they said. What does anyone say to someone who is laying on their deathbed? Royal or not, almost all of us will have to deal with the death o…
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This is the first of the official “Taboo Topics” Series. In this episode, Kim and Ferne discuss what to do when your sex life is less than ideal. The bedroom isn’t as exciting as it used to be, things don’t happen as often as you want them to, or you’re looking for something else; we cover all these topics and more in this episode! Listen to The Fr…
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This week, things get personal. Kim expresses dismay at the results from the first month of her ultra-strict eating plan. Kim and Ferne discuss the feeling of disappointment and the struggle of being stuck when you feel as though you have tried absolutely everything to reach your goal, yet you see no progress. Listen to this episode of The Frame of…
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We all have that one person in our lives that is chronically unhappy. Whatever you do or say, they always seem to focus on the things in life that are going badly. You care about them a lot, but you don’t know how to help them, and being around them is bringing you down. You feel stuck, you can’t leave them out of your life, but you no longer know …
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Have you ever heard of The No Game? The goal of this game is to collect as many no’s as possible by asking people for outrageous things, things that you know they will say no to. The point of this game is to get comfortable hearing others tell you no, and to get comfortable asking for crazy things. The game might even surprise you when someone tell…
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We all know that one person who refuses to ask for help. Either they feel bad being a burden to others or they want to do everything themselves because they don’t trust others to do as good of a job. Even when the world is crumbling down on them, they hold all the weight on their own shoulders. If you are someone like this, or you know someone like…
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You feel like you’ve been working at breakneck speed for years, and you see no end in sight. You can’t afford to take a break, but you’re exhausted. It feels like every day is a new marathon, but your legs refuse to move. Being burnt out is common and stressful. How do we prevent it? And if it happens, how do we overcome it? Listen to this episode …
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This week’s episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast is a little bit more somber than most; the topic is death. What happens after we die? What do we imagine our funeral will look like? How do we want people to remember us? What do we hope for the people we will be leaving behind? While these conversations may be tough to have, they are certa…
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For some wild reason, we’ve been taught to do EVERYTHING ourselves. What ends up happening is that either something eventually falls through the cracks, or we get overwhelmed. Denise Beers Kiepper, Founder and Chief Vision Officer at DBK Coaching and Consulting, hops on today’s show with this problem. As she keeps building her business, she has fal…
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Whenever someone asks me how to find balance, I always say that they are not actually striving for stillness. Then there are other people who achieve a sense of peace and quiet, and don’t know what to do with it! That’s exactly what today’s guest is experiencing. Jodi Levy, Senior Sales Consultant at 2M7 Financial Solutions, doesn’t know what to do…
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How do you keep going after being rejected over and over and over again? How do you keep trying after you’ve been turned away from a job, a grant, or an opportunity? How do you stop yourself from taking it personally? How do you stop yourself from feeling like you’re not good enough? Tune into this week’s episode of Fridays with Ferne to learn abou…
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One of the most important things in life that people tend to forget is that it’s perfectly fine to ask for help! We often take on all the work ourselves before seeking input from others. Lasha Glennie, Project Manager at MITT, comes to The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast with this exact challenge. Lasha is part of a great team and she does her job …
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What do you do when you fundamentally disagree with your country’s constitution? How do you cope with the anger that is bubbling inside of you? The good news is you have options. Tune into today’s episode of Fridays with Ferne to figure out what those options are. While this episode was inspired by recent events, it also pertains to the broader que…
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Any relationship can get complicated, but what happens when you have an issue with your own mother? Adriel Roldan, Talent Acquisition Specialist at Sofina Foods, comes to the podcast with a family problem. As his wedding gets closer and closer, he and his partner have to focus on wedding planning, but some things may fall through the cracks. On the…
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One of the most common challenges that parents who are also business leaders face is time shortage. This is because they tend to think that they should be doing everything, and although they strive for some balance in their lives, there’s always something that falls through the cracks, leaving them with a sense of guilt. Olessia Lapina, Human Resou…
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Some people are naturally excellent listeners; they ask all the right questions and pause at all the right moments; they react just the way you want them to. Some people love listening to others and are genuinely curious about what they have to say. But even good listeners need someone to listen to them too sometimes. How do you find your audience?…
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The topic of retaining talent has been coming up A LOT lately. Although there are many reasons why employees leave jobs, the most common cause is leaders who lack coaching skills. Annabelle Picker worked for a company for about 2 years. She recently went on maternity leave, and as she was preparing herself to go back and was ready to take the next …
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How do you know when it is time to forgive someone? Should you let them back into your life, or are you just being naïve and giving them another chance to hurt you? And when is the right time to simply let someone go? In this week’s episode of Fridays with Ferne, we talk about forgiveness. I share my thoughts and insights; perhaps we need to forgiv…
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There are many reasons why people don’t ask for help. Maybe they grew up that way, or perhaps they have a need to prove themselves. One of the most common reasons is that they feel like they’re imposing. My guest today is Nausheen Osman, HR Manager and Technical Recruiter at Planet of IT. As a working single mother of three, she feels like she does…
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Most parents fear for their children, particularly when their children are too far away to catch when they fall. This week’s episode of Fridays with Ferne is about an 18-year-old girl who tells her mother she wants to travel to South America for the summer. The mother isn’t overly protective, but she fears for her daughter. There is so much unknown…
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Last week on The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast, we spoke about an issue that many companies have been struggling with: recruitment and retention. Today we are diving even deeper into this topic. Kaitlyn Pacheco is the Program and Project Manager at Rogers Communications, and she comes to the show to talk about her past experience in recruitment. …
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In this week’s podcast, Ferne opens up and talks about her identity. Having been born and raised in Canada by a father who came from Soviet Russia and a mother who grew up in an Egyptian household, Ferne talks about her struggle to figure out her cultural identity. She doesn’t feel like she truly belongs to any of the three options. Click here to j…
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Companies are having a hard time keeping their younger employees these days. This is something that’s been affecting today’s podcast guest as well. Natacha Roussy is the Senior Manager of Talent & Projects at Groupe Dynamite. Her job is to recruit people, and lately it’s been tough for the company to keep those new hires. Many companies have been s…
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Anyone who’s ever met me knows that I ask a lot of questions. This time, Ferne turns the tables on me. What is my secret? How do I get people to open up? How do I get people to share what they are really feeling and thinking? The answer is in the question. Tune in to this week’s Fridays with Ferne to find out more! https://www.frameofmindcoaching.c…
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These past couple of years have been out of balance… and even chaotic! Chaos naturally makes us search for some balance in our lives, but maybe balance isn’t exactly what we need right now. Our guest on today’s episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast is Carla Looper, Owner and Founder of Looper Insurance Agency. Carla has been craving more w…
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As a single mother with two children, life can be complicated. You have a million and one things to do and negative time to do it all. Cooking, cleaning, working, taking care of the children; there isn’t enough time for those things, let alone taking time for yourself or a significant other. The topic for this week’s Fridays with Ferne episode is a…
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We all have a set of beliefs that can either serve us or hurt us. Those beliefs influence our behaviors and decisions, but most of the time we are unaware of what our beliefs are. Tara Ross, HR Director at Stackpole International and today’s guest, is a victim of her own beliefs, but she’s unaware of it. Tara has a tendency to want to double-check …
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Today’s episode of Fridays with Ferne is a little bit different than usual. Instead of bringing a case to the table, Ferne opens the floor to the topic of regret. What do you do when you have a huge regret? How do you deal with that all-consuming feeling? Tune in and join the conversation! https://www.frameofmindcoaching.com/podcast Read the episod…
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Our guest on today’s episode of The Frame of Mind Coaching™ Podcast is Susan Crooks who, in honor of her son, founded an organization called Walt’s Waltz. Her mission is to destigmatize the conversation on mental health, create safe spaces for people who struggle with mental health conditions, and ultimately to spread a message of hope to reduce su…
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This week’s podcast is about Ferne’s childhood; here is her story: As a child, my mother always praised me for my strawberry cutting skills – I know, oddly specific and not widely useful, but nevertheless, I was proud. I was probably eight years old when I was cutting some strawberries, and I accidentally cut my finger instead. There was a little b…
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