But, are you _actually_ on FIRE?

Tshirt Truths with Bonny King-Taylor

I'm Bonny King-Taylor, a life coach and counselor. And I want to welcome you to Tshirt Truths, where we talk about the ideas that, when we become comfortable with them, like a favorite t-shirt, we become more fully ourselves, live more satisfying lives and interact more effectively with those around us. You've heard that saying, change your language, change your life. Right? Well, it turns out that doing so is no more difficult than washing a stiff new t-shirt until you really want to wear it.
Let's get started by slipping into today's Tshirt Truth. Unless you're actually on fire. And by that, I mean 'en flambe' (French for 'on fire) in any given moment, you're probably okay.
This tool is the antidote for catastrophizing!
Next time on Tshirt Truths: Is it a Want, or a DON'T WANT in disguise?
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Episode Transcription
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Tshirt Truths, Season 1, Episode 1

Title: But are you actually on FIRE?

(00:12):

Have you ever read or heard something and thought to yourself, dang, that was deep. I gotta get that on a t-shirt. I have that thought all the time. I'm Bonny King-Taylor, a life coach and counselor dedicated to helping you change your life by changing your thoughts. I'd like to welcome you to Tshirt Truths, where we talk about the thoughts that when we become comfortable with them, like a favorite t-shirt, we become more fully ourselves, live more satisfying lives and interact more effectively with those around us. Let's get started by slipping into today's t-shirt truth,

(00:57):

Unless you're actually on fire. And by that, I mean on flambe´, in any given moment, you're probably okay, this tool is the antidote for catastrophizing. And it's one of the first tools I ever wrote many years ago. It's helped a lot of people develop the habit of pausing and applying the SUD Scale. That's the subjective units of distress. Like when the doctor asks you on a scale of one to 10, how high is your pain? And it'll surprise you how much your brain can help you if you'd just let it. So let me tell you a story about how I'm not actually on fire can apply to you. My clients know that they can depend on me, whether they're currently on my service or not. And one of the greatest joys of my life is hearing from them years later, one day I'm puttering around the house and my phone rings.

(01:49):

It's a client that I haven't heard from in a couple of years, and that person was crying. And I was like, okay, hold on. Scurry, scurry, scurry, turn off the stove. As I'm walking towards the chair, I'm metaphorically, armoring up getting ready for anything. But when I settled in, I realized that they weren't crying. They were laughing. And they said I was getting ready to go into a meeting with my boss, which by the way is the thing we'd been working on. And I started to panic, but you know what? I heard your voice in my head and a smile spread across my face. I was not on fire. I went into that meeting and realized something for the very first time. My boss was even more scared than me. Thank you so much for helping me to see that. And I got to tell you a Listener...

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1. Thanks so much for listening (00:00:00)

2. Welcome (00:00:12)

3. Unless you are actually on FIRE (00:00:57)

4. It's a client I had not heard from in years (00:01:49)

5. Action is what creates habit. Habits become... (00:02:46)

6. Notice the ground under your feet (00:03:48)