Take Yourself Out Of The Middle. Tiny Pep Talks For Stepparents podcast

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I spent A LOT of years trying to protect Dan from his own crappy decisions. In doing so, I inadvertently buffered him from the very real consequences of his actions (or inactions). In fact, I protected and buffered him so well that he had zero incentive to change. 🤦🏻‍♀️.

If I could go back in time, I'd save both of us a whole lot of frustration by reminding him a normal amount about important things — and then letting life happen. Oh, you never replied to your ex's email in time about that day trade to accommodate our family vacation? Guess your kid isn't coming then. 🤷🏻‍♀️ I know that sounds mean but it only would've taken ONE incident like that to improve our entire family dynamic. ONE. And instead, I spent years and years arguing and nagging and frustrated as hell... with no effect whatsoever, unless you include increasing both our stress levels.

Caring more about your partner's boundaries with the ex than they do, or caring more about your stepkid's upbringing than your partner does — both of those are recipes for resentment, frustration, and a whole lotta arguing in circles. Let's not do that anymore. Instead, go read this: ➡️ THE DISENGAGING ESSAY 👀 Disengaging is often incorrectly interpreted as having nothing to do with your stepkids, but really it’s about stepping back from trying to control everything. Which you might not even realize you’re doing — I definitely didn’t.

Anyway. All this is to say, it really is okay to let your partner & your stepkids experience the natural consequences of their actions or inactions. If you’ve tried everything else, I encourage you to maybe try that next and see how it goes.

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