Ep 031: Building Resilience in Kids and Nurturing A Growth Mindset as a Modern Dad with Jeevan Balani

The Relational Parenting Podcast

In this episode, Jeevan explores the challenges and joys of parenting, highlighting the importance of building resilience in children while allowing them to discover their unique identities. He shares personal experiences and insights gained from conversations with Jennie and Papa Rick, shedding light on the intricacies of raising children in a rapidly changing world.

Building Resilience

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  • Jeevan reflects on how challenges and joys in parenting are interconnected. The perspective we choose determines our experience.
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  • Resilience is top of mind for Jeevan. He shares his background growing up in Jamaica and his concern about making life too comfortable for his children. He emphasizes the importance of children facing adversity to build resilience.

Navigating Adversity

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  • Jeevan discusses the challenge of giving children opportunities to build resilience in a changing world. He shares his approach to encouraging persistence and exploring discomfort outside their comfort zones.

Embracing Life's Challenges

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  • Jennie highlights the idea that everyone faces adversity in life. She emphasizes the importance of emotional intelligence and understanding the emotions behind behavior.

Rethinking Resilience

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  • Jeevan reflects on his upbringing and the influence of his culture on his view of resilience. He discusses the challenge of adjusting his parenting approach from a "push through it" mentality to one that includes compassion and empathy.

Present Parenting

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  • Jeevan emphasizes the importance of physical presence in parenting and shares his decision to prioritize time with his children. He acknowledges the challenge of balancing presence and fostering independence.

Empathy and Boundaries

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  • Jeevan discusses his knee-jerk reaction to his daughter's adversity and his evolving approach to empathizing with her emotions while maintaining boundaries. He explores the idea of setting boundaries with empathy.

Seeking Feedback

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  • Jennie shares her personal experience with setting boundaries and seeking feedback as a child. She highlights the importance of finding a balance between empathy and firmness.

Allowing Exploration

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  • Jeevan shares his experience with introducing his daughter to different activities and the importance of letting children explore their interests. He reflects on the significance of allowing them to make choices.

Exploring Identity

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  • The discussion shifts to exploring children's identity and interests, particularly in the context of gender-neutral activities and products. Jeevan shares his concern about gender biases.

Navigating Gender Stereotypes

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  • Jeevan discusses the challenges of navigating gender stereotypes and shares his efforts to encourage his daughters to explore diverse interests. He highlights the importance of maintaining a balance.

Open Conversations

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  • The importance of open conversations between parents and children is emphasized. Jeevan shares his approach to discussing his concerns with his daughters' interests while avoiding judgment.

Breaking Societal Norms

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  • The discussion touches on societal expectations of masculinity and the importance of allowing children to be themselves. Jeevan reflects on the need for men to seek support and change stereotypes.

Dad Support Groups

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  • Jeevan shares his observations about dad support groups and the challenges of activating and engaging fathers in these groups. He discusses societal expectations and the importance of seeking help.

Conclusion:
The episode concludes with a hopeful outlook on the evolving role of fathers in parenting and the importance of breaking down gender stereotypes to foster a more inclusive and supportive environment for children.

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Creators & Guests

• Natalie Long - Editor
• Jennifer Hayes - Host
• Rick Hayes - Host
• Jeevan Balani - Guest
• Jeevan Balani - Guest

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