Why Women Bully Women: How to Deal with Mean Girls at Work

My Workplace Is Killing Me!

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πριν περίπου ένα χρόνο 49:52

Are you feeling undermined, excluded, or walking on eggshells at work? You're not alone. In this eye-opening episode of My Workplace Is Killing Me!, Dr. Michelle King and Selina Suresh tackle the taboo topic of workplace bullying—specifically, how women experience and sometimes perpetuate toxic dynamics with other women.

"Did you know that women are 30% more likely to experience bullying at work than men? And when women bully, they target other women up to 70% of the time."

From understanding the cultural and systemic forces that fuel these behaviors to sharing Sarah’s heartbreaking story of exclusion and sabotage, this episode unpacks the harsh realities of "mean girl" tactics. But it’s not all doom and gloom—Dr. Michelle King and Selina Suresh offer practical, research-backed strategies for dealing with workplace bullies, setting boundaries, and fostering a culture of kindness.

💡 Key Takeaways:

Why women are disproportionately affected by workplace bullying.

How subtle tactics like exclusion and gossip can derail careers.

Practical tools for protecting your mental health, setting boundaries, and reclaiming your confidence.

If you’ve ever struggled with a toxic workplace or wondered how to navigate challenging dynamics, this episode is a must-listen. 🎧

🔗 Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share your story at MyWorkplaceIsKillingMe.com!

#ToxicWorkplace #WorkplaceBullying #CareerGrowth #Podcas

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Why Women Bully Women: How to Deal with Mean Girls at Work

My Workplace Is Killing Me!

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"Did you know that women are 30% more likely to experience bullying at work than men? And when women bully, they target other women up to 70% of the time."

💡 Key Takeaways:

Why women are disproportionately affected by workplace bullying.

How subtle tactics like exclusion and gossip can derail careers.

Practical tools for protecting your mental health, setting boundaries, and reclaiming your confidence.

If you’ve ever struggled with a toxic workplace or wondered how to navigate challenging dynamics, this episode is a must-listen. 🎧

🔗 Don’t forget to subscribe, leave a review, and share your story at MyWorkplaceIsKillingMe.com!

#ToxicWorkplace #WorkplaceBullying #CareerGrowth #Podcas

9 επεισόδια

#Science #MBA #Careers #Business #Social Sciences #Dr. Michelle King & Selina Suresh #Dr. Michelle King #Selina Suresh

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