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Το περιεχόμενο παρέχεται από το Sami. Όλο το περιεχόμενο podcast, συμπεριλαμβανομένων των επεισοδίων, των γραφικών και των περιγραφών podcast, μεταφορτώνεται και παρέχεται απευθείας από τον Sami ή τον συνεργάτη της πλατφόρμας podcast. Εάν πιστεύετε ότι κάποιος χρησιμοποιεί το έργο σας που προστατεύεται από πνευματικά δικαιώματα χωρίς την άδειά σας, μπορείτε να ακολουθήσετε τη διαδικασία που περιγράφεται εδώ https://el.player.fm/legal.
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Το περιεχόμενο παρέχεται από το Sami. Όλο το περιεχόμενο podcast, συμπεριλαμβανομένων των επεισοδίων, των γραφικών και των περιγραφών podcast, μεταφορτώνεται και παρέχεται απευθείας από τον Sami ή τον συνεργάτη της πλατφόρμας podcast. Εάν πιστεύετε ότι κάποιος χρησιμοποιεί το έργο σας που προστατεύεται από πνευματικά δικαιώματα χωρίς την άδειά σας, μπορείτε να ακολουθήσετε τη διαδικασία που περιγράφεται εδώ https://el.player.fm/legal.
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It’s been a while, folks, but here’s a great episode (and perhaps our longest!). Sami talks about rape culture. Click “read more” to see all of the show notes! What is it? Rape culture is where institutional sexism meets our cultural desensitization to violence. Sexual violence is seen as a joke (facebook national grab a boob day, efuckt video of guys pulling the tops off girls) and victims are put on trial just as much (if not more) than the accusers. Rape culture is the ignorance of the meaning of consent. Victims are asked if they fought off their attacker and, if they didn’t, why not? Men are conditioned that if she doesn’t say no, she must be saying yes. Men are taught that women are conquests to be won or lost by their charisma, strength, sexual prowess, or bargaining skills. Men are taught that drunk women are more pliable and therefore getting a woman hammered in order to have sex with her is a viable strategy when it comes to “getting laid.” Rape culture teaches men that a successful “conquest” often times looks a hell of a lot like rape. A typical seduction scene includes a man continuing to flirt with, buy alcohol for, pressure into private conversation, and buy more alcohol for his “prey,” all the while a woman demurs, refuses the advances of, or even scoffs at, the man. Men will even employ “wingmen” who will “take the fat/ugly friend” (because fat women are so much more desperate for sex that they will hook up with anyone?) Women often go out in groups specifically to combat persistent and overly aggressive men, and this “wingman” technique is designed to combat that safety net Rape culture is when an accusation of sexual violence is first met with “what was she wearing?” “Did they have a history?” “Was she drunk?” did she secretly want it? Why is sexual violence unique? We do not ask a man who got mugged if he has given money to a homeless person in the past, We do not ask him what he was wearing, we do not ask him what he was doing out at that time of night, and we don’t ask him if he secretly wanted to give his money away; or gave it away that night and then regretted it in the morning. This sort of culture is also prevalent in the recent news story of when an elderly woman was attacked and raped. The news article and public reaction focused solely on the heinousness of the crime; not once did someone ask about what she was wearing, if she was intoxicated, if she secretly enjoyed it, or whether or not she was “asking for it.” Why can we not take this same approach for young women? Do the elderly not have (and enjoy) sex? Why is it that we will take an octogenarians word at face value, but we will put young victims on trial? Rape is one of the most underreported crimes out there, specifically because of the stigma it places on women. The accuser is on trial just as much as the accused, and the ensuing questions from the officer are degrading, demoralizing, and dismissive. A recent NY times article highlights eight women who were able to come out against the way they were treated by the NYPD – A woman who said she was raped by her ex-boyfriend was laughed at, a woman who was drugged was dismissed as “just being drunk,” and a woman who was choked and raped repeatedly by an acquaintance was told “that sounds like rough sex gone awry.” The article also told of other disturbing and horrific tactics used by officers – “were you drinking? Are you SURE you want to report this? Do you pick up guys often? Are you just trying to get revenge?” This was blamed on poor training, but to me it goes much deeper. This is more than just officers being unaware of how to handle the victim of a heinous crime, this is sexism that has so permeated our culture that a woman can neither own her own sexuality nor really know what happened to her. What does it mean for a woman to “own her sexuality” and how does it apply to rape culture? Right now, our young women are caught between two opposing forces. One is their new-found liberation, thanks to decades of work from feminists, that tells them they should not be ashamed of their bodies, their sexuality, or their drive. And they shouldn’t. A woman should be able to have sex (safe sex) with whomever she wants, whenever she wants, and face no more societal pressure or stigma that a man faces. At the same time, however, women also face institutional and cultural sexism that tells them they do not fully own their sexuality; it is really just something for a man to conquer. This is also the culture that our men have grown up in – Women are independent creatures now, so it’s going to be extra tough to bag the next one. Men are taught that because a woman can now own their sexuality, men can own a woman’s sexuality too. Men are taught that sexual aggression is not only ok, it is good. It is what separates boys from men. It is teaching men that it is a compliment to a woman that a man cannot control his urges around her, that he is flattering her by catcalls or unwanted touching. A woman owning her sexuality is what makes policing the sexual world so complex. Men like Joe Francis (Girls Gone Wild) and Terry Richardson (American Fashion Photographer) despite being, themselves, sexist, misogynistic pigs who quite possibly have sexually assaulted, if not raped, young, impressionable, and (in the case of Francis, very drunk) girls, cannot be blamed for the culture they exploit. Men like Steven Hirsh (Vivid) or Jim Coles (Larry Flint Publications) cannot be used as scapegoats for issues within the porn industry. Women, for the first time, are able to explore and celebrate their sexuality, and some want to do so on camera. There is nothing wrong with this. It should be explored and embraced, but only in a healthy environment. Porn actresses and girls showing their tits on camera have every right to do so. The issue comes up when they are abused, threatened, coerced, or drugged into doing things they are not comfortable with. The issue comes up when men are saturated with these videos and assume that it is the norm, and the way men are talking to women on camera is how they should talk to someone in a bar or walking down the street. A woman owning her sexuality scares the pants off everyone except women who own their sexuality. They are constantly being told by their friends, their parents, and society how they should act. Shakesville puts it best: Rape culture is telling girls and women to be careful about what you wear, how you wear it, how you carry yourself, where you walk, when you walk there, with whom you walk, whom you trust, what you do, where you do it, with whom you do it, what you drink, how much you drink, whether you make eye contact, if you’re alone, if you’re with a stranger, if you’re in a group, if you’re in a group of strangers, if it’s dark, if the area is unfamiliar, if you’re carrying something, how you carry it, what kind of shoes you’re wearing in case you have to run, what kind of purse you carry, what jewelry you wear, what time it is, what street it is, what environment it is, how many people you sleep with, what kind of people you sleep with, who your friends are, to whom you give your number, who’s around when the delivery guy comes, to get an apartment where you can see who’s at the door before they can see you, to check before you open the door to the delivery guy, to own a dog or a dog-sound-making machine, to get a roommate, to take self-defense, to always be alert always pay attention always watch your back always be aware of your surroundings and never let your guard down for a moment lest you be sexually assaulted and if you are and didn’t follow all the rules it’s your fault. How has society placed the blame on women’s shoulders? It’s seen over and over again not just in society but in the court of law: In England, a judge acquitted a 24 year old man because he said his victim dressed too provocatively. If that doesn’t get to you, will this? His victim was TEN YEARS OLD. The idea that a woman who dresses in a certain manner is giving consent to sex to ANYONE is complete bullshit; putting that burden on a 10 year old child is even worse. In May of this year, a man was acquitted of rape because the jury decided the woman’s jeans were too tight for him to take off without her help. She was in skinny jeans, and while I know how hard those can be to take off, they are not impossible. What is even worse, however, is that she was in a size 6 austrailian jeans and weighed all of 93 pounds. A size 6 AU converts to a size 4 American, which a 93 lb girl would be swimming in. Not that any of this matters, of course, because what a woman is or isn’t wearing has no bearing on whether or not she is consenting to sex. In America, a study was presented in which a boy raped a girl after meeting in a sexual assault lecture, of all things. They were hanging out in his dorm (strike one for her!) During this time he got on top of her, held her down, and started kissing her, in which she asked him to stop multiple times. He then got up, locked the door, threw her on the bed, and proceeded to have sex with her (during which she said no multiple times) before ejaculating on her stomach and sending her on her way. In the trial, she was asked if she knew whether the door lock was one that kept people out or kept people in, how hard she was thrown on the bed (she was asked if she bounced off the bed – Because that clearly makes a difference!) Once he penetrated her (this was after her saying “no” multiple times, telling him she had to go, telling him to get off of her, and trying to push him away) she, in her own words, “started saying no, no, but in a quiet moaning sort of way because it was just so scary.” The defendant admitted she was saying no, but he thought it was “passionate moaning” which he took to mean “yes.” (because, of course, it would be really that hard to stop and ask her?) The boy was convicted, but it was then overturned by the Pennsylvania Supreme Court. The rationale was that while it was non-consensual sex, it was not rape. What? Really? In 2006, a judge banned the words “rape,” “sexual assault,” “sexual assault kit,” “victim,” or “assailant” from a RAPE trial. The victim – excuse me, claimant – Had to use the words “sex” and “sexual intercourse” to describe her rape. Did the judge think that rape and sex is the same thing? This man had also been accused – and tried – for rape before, which had also resulted in a hung jury. “false rape” occurs no more frequently than that of false accusations of other crimes, and yet society’s first reaction to a rape is to question whether she is telling the truth and what motives she may have to lie about it. Women must carefully balance the onslaught of what their sexualization means to them. They should look and dress nice, sexy even. But not too sexy, because then they are “asking for it.” Exactly how much cleavage is too sexy? How high do a girls heels have to be before she is consenting to sex to the first man who gets her alone? How drunk does she have to be before her body isn’t hers anymore? How prepared does she have to be (self-defense classes, mace, the buddy system) before she can be sure her rape is not her fault? Rape apologists and falserape.net BLURGH BLURGH Why do more women report instances that can be classified as sexual assault or rape than those who actually report being raped? Why did the study that went over the prevalence of rape include forcible penetration “by a finger or foreign object?” Do charges being dropped due to lack of evidence really counter studies that speak to the prevalence of rape? Falserape.net says “half of all rape charges may be false” and then backs up this argument because some studies show that women recant their accusations. Does no really mean no, or is it part of seduction? Quote from the false rape blog: “I got nothing against, say, women voting — although I am happy to admit the country got along just fine before women got the franchise” and: “What I do object to is feminism’s destruction of the family and its war against men, seen nowhere more clearly than in the false rape epidemic chronicled daily in this blog.” NO, YOU GIGANTIC BAG OF ASS. FEMINISM IS NOT DESTROYING MARRIAGES BY FALSELY ACCUSING MEN OF RAPE. MEN ARE DESTROYING FEMALES BY RAPING THEM. YOUR WHITE UPPER CLASS SUBURBAN PRIVILAGE IS MAKING ME GAG FROM HERE.…
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I thought to myself, “What would a conservative commercial sound like?” And then this happened. - Jesse
It’s now legal for gay couples to be married in California, but that doesn’t stop the backlash from the opposition!
Sami and Jesse have a “quickie”, then talk about abortion. Wait… Sami and Jesse have a quick talk about abortion. There we go.
Episode two is out! Join Sami, Jesse, and special guest Brian in a brain-battering discussion about unemployment and the economy.
Introducing “On A Tangent!” Here’s the first episode of On a Tangent, where Sami and Jesse bring special guests from all around onto the show to discuss anything and everything. Enjoy!
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