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Life is a roller coaster; ups, downs, unexpected bumps, and turns are all part of the journey. How we handle those ups and downs impacts who we are, who we become and how we see ourselves. And many times, there are life situations that throw us for a loop and it impacts us in ways seen and unseen. These can have us feeling defeated, stuck, alone and wondering how to move forward. Cheddy Matthews and Michelle Wickman are joining forces to share interviews, chats, and their own journeys riding ...
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The predominance of people pleasing Burnout and resentment from people pleasing Saying "yes" becoming your identity Key takeaways: What part of you is people pleasing benefiting? Losing a part of you is a risk of people pleasing 4 step process to assess people pleasing Pause… Say “no” as the first respo…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Michelle Wickman’s four components of self-leadership. Hard skills vs Soft Skills in your career and life. Key takeaways: The four components of self-leadership are: Self-Awareness Self-Discipline Emotional Intelligence Personal Agency We must invest the time to develop these soft skills. If we are lead…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: A coach sees their client’s behaviour from the sideline; they can see the big picture from what the client is describing. Plan for “what ifs” while you’re taking the steps towards your goals. Choosing action over procrastination. Key takeaways: Procrastination is a nice way of self-sabotage. Procrastina…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Finding a way to accomplish your goal. Eliminating the option of changing course. Understanding what serves your goal. Key takeaways: Deciding to be “all in” will cause current discomfort, but it will yield future results. Look for the shift to happen when you have no other options but to succeed. Learn…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Small wins as steps to greater goals Visualizing yourself winning like an athlete. What is a small win? Recognizing other people’s wins Key takeaways: Schedule time to celebrate one small win per day. The more you take time to celebrate small wins, the more you’ll recognize the opportunities to win. Cel…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Behavioral Activation - take the action and let your brain get on board. WHAT gets you out of bed vs HOW you get out of bed. Selecting a thought or an action that gets you out of bed. Key takeaways: Be Intentional when getting out of bed. Celebrating waking up to another day; embodying gratitude. Be awa…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Working, Playing, and Resting Hard. The best time to make decisions and take action. Life is in the middle and living a full life is experiencing all of it. Using tools (like a pomodoro clock) to increase work efficiency. Key takeaways: You will take the amount of time to allot for a task. Resting hard …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The noun “sticktoitiveness” Celebrating one year of the Winning Inside Podcast The choice of not quitting Key takeaways: Know the difference between quitting and pausing deciding to reflect, reassess, and re-engage. Your current situation could be equipping you for the next phase of your journey. Knowin…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Stress and how it showed up Being in panic Breaking the cycle Key takeaways: Stress and frustration can lead to panic Taking a moment to pause can stop the thought of panic Detaching from a problem allows you to address it differently “The power of pause in your life can be transformational.” -Michelle …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Janice Chance, the Mother of Jesse Melton III, Captain, United States Marine Corps, who was killed in action on September 9th 2008 Who Captain Jesse Melton was in his mother’s words Using faith to persevere through tragedy, Turning your pain into pearls Key takeaways: Grief turned inward is destructive …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Prince Daniel’s Story Killing yourself while workout/resurrecting yourself with meditation Optimism, resilience, perseverance Proving the naysayers wrong Gratitude is an endurance build Key takeaways: Showing kindness and gratitude for your heart Transition (from work to home) and being present Managing…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Renee Coakley’s Story Still birth at 36 weeks Beating stage 2 breast cancer Turning your pain into power Healing through the sharing of your circumstance Using faith to overcome multiple traumas Key takeaways: Finding peace in the chaos and still finding peace in the things you can’t control. The healin…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation Acts of Service Receiving Gifts Quality Time Physical Touch Ways to incorporate them into your life Key takeaways: The Five Love Languages: Words of Affirmation: Example: Compliments, affirmations, positive feedback Thoughts for self-reflection: Think about …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Shifting into gratitude Gratitude affecting perception Living in the moment Key takeaways: As a practice, find things to be grateful for. The difference between optimism and realism. What you put your attention on, grows. We have more power over our lives than we give ourselves credit for. “Want the thi…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Takeaways from the holidays Goals and Emotions Thanks to the audience Key takeaways: This is a new start and a refresh Keep the good release the negative Reassess your goals and adjust Celebrate the “little wins” Have as much grace for yourself as you do for others “I’m just working things out.” “A lot …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Being shoulder to shoulder Going further, faster The power of collaboration Using curiosity to our unpack our beliefs Intentional creation The silent power of being open Key takeaways: Establishing your “Personal Board of Directors.” Discover, Become present to Question, Create the beliefs and thoughts …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Hitesh discuss: Hitesh Solanki’s background Infertility and miscarriages from a male perspective Hitesh’s methods of overcoming negative emotions Key takeaways: Grit, adaptability, and Intentionality can help you get through adversity Consistency leads to strength, which aids in your success. 3 points for writing your li…
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This special episode is all about the co-host of Winning Inside, Michelle Wickman of Wickman Wellness, her story, why she does the work that she does, what she is passionate about, and more. Some of the topics we discuss are: Michelle Wickman’s background The Importance of a “want match” The core value of integrity Setbacks in her life Life at UC B…
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This special episode is all about Cheddy Matthews, his story, why he does the work that he does, what he is passionate about, and more. Some of the topics discussed are: Cheddy’s background Leadership Setbacks in his life Resilience Who he works with How humans are more similar than different (around the world) Where to find your highest and best v…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Recap of ‘Tolerance of Negative Behavior’ podcast. Personal growth and your comfort zone. Tolerating your own negative emotions or feelings by choice. Key takeaways: Building failure tolerance is the key to personal growth and goal achievement. When you fail, it’s critical to take the next smallest step…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How tolerating bad behavior affects your self-worth How to approach a boundary conversation Examples of boundaries in our lives Key takeaways: You can set or reset your boundaries at any time Establishing boundaries lets others know behavior you will and will not tolerate. Boundaries benefit both partie…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How do integrate a gratitude practice in your day How do use gratitude in pursuing your goals How Cheddy & Michelle use gratitude when something negative happens Key takeaways: Gratitude is a mindset and a feeling. Gratitude elevates your emotional state. Gratitude affects those around you. “If you clos…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How overthinking can show up in our lives Low production cycles MAKING A DECISION Key takeaways: Overthinking is fear based Do the best you can with what you have. The 3 Step Process to Stop Overthinking: Become aware of the overthinking Assess what it is that you want/where you want to go Take action -…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Living small within Maslow’s Hierarchy of Needs. Living small as a way of feeling safe: protecting your inner child. Living small is an unconscious choice; you can choose to live large. Key takeaways: Living small robs you of your greatest potential. Living a life that isn’t small requires risk. Remembe…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Where the belief that we have to earn love or acceptance originates. How we express love and how we receive it - The 5 Love Languages ™ Key takeaways: It’s okay to ask someone how they prefer to express and receive love. Conditional love or acceptance is a moving target. “Love is not a prize (to be won)…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How the lies we tell ourselves about what we should be, have or do cause us to feel extremely powerful but negative emotions. They rarely benefit us in a sustainable and positive way. How “Shoulding” ourselves can make us feel and how to identify them. We tell ourselves we “Should” ourselves for our ben…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How we assign the responsibility for our happiness to things outside of us. We have more control over our emotions than we realize, acknowledge, or admit. Consumerism relies on us believing the “I’ll be happy when…” lie. Key takeaways: Michelle explains how Dr. Seuss’ book The Sneetches illustrates the …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: How the lie we tell ourselves about not being enough affects the quality of our life. What life could be like if you refused to adopt the idea of not-enoughness. Key takeaways: Regardless of position, status, or title, many people deal with not-enoughess.. Accepting not-enoughness makes you play small. …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Frustrations with the healthcare industry The Difference between being a “squeaky wheel” and a “Karen.” How to have a healthy mindset when self advocating. Key takeaways: We are conditioned to accept what is given to us. Sometimes it is important to ensure your specific needs are met; that requires self…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The effects of self-victimization. Identifying the language, patterns, and behaviors of victimhood. Transitioning from victimhood to self-empowerment. Key takeaways: Your possibilities are limitless! When we align with victimization, you're living small and dishonoring the power and potential you posses…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The joys of travel. The benefits of getting away. Their dream locations and the type of vacations they prefer. Key takeaways: Travel doesn’t have to mean traveling around the world; it could be as simple as exploring your local area. Travel requires exploration, which leads to creativity and openness An…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Not being seen for who they authentically are from a personal perspective. Why it is important to acknowledge and recognize people for who they are. Compassionate curiosity and how it improves connection. Key takeaways: Being seen is the acknowledgment of who a person authentically is. Recognizing and a…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: What is the not so merry-go-round.. How to recognize a negative cycle of behavior. How to deal with a negative cycle of behavior. Key takeaways: The not so merry-go-round can affect all areas of our lives: personal, private, professional, recreational, social, relational and more. Sometimes we stay on t…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Recognizing what burnout looks like in your life. What to do if you find yourself experiencing burnout. How to manage burnout. Key takeaways: Burnout can affect many areas of your life, to include your health -so treat yourself with compassion. Sometimes slowing down is the fastest way ahead when you’re…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Focusing on your goals and their progress. Moving toward your purpose through your goals. How to compassionately reevaluate your goals. How to adjust your actions to better reach your desired goals. Key takeaways: Take the time to assess your goals to monitor progress and make sure they are aligned with…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Avoiding Task Completion Why we avoid completing tasks How we avoid tasks How to overcome task avoidance Key takeaways: People often avoid completing tasks because of fear, overwhelm, low interest or a lack of understanding. Task avoidance is sneaky and can present itself as confusion, avoidance, procra…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Celebrating those graduating and getting promoted this time of year. The basic need for connection. The benefits of networking, connecting, and how Cheddy and Michelle met in a virtual networking event. Be present, curious, and authentic when networking. Key takeaways: You never know what opportunities …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: It is necessary to acknowledge your emotions and deal with them as they are experienced. It is not okay to discount your emotions or the emotions of others. Be sincere and not dismissive when dealing with people's emotions. Look at mental health as “Mental Hygiene” in order to treat it the same way you …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: *Trigger Warning -This episode mentions suicide and other topics that might be of concern. Please consult with a professional if necessary. Acknowledgement of Mental Health Awareness Month Removing the stigma of mental health issues Look at mental health as “Mental Hygiene” in order to treat it the same…
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Take a Moment...! In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Taking the time to enjoy precious moments Being present through mindfulness Slowing down to gather your thoughts Being aware of yourself and your environment Key takeaways: Taking the time to enjoy any kind of event that brings you closer to your friends or family members is necessary.…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: When to not take responsibility Focusing on what you can control The journey of pursuing a goal Creating something from nothing Key takeaways: Taking responsibility over things that you don’t own is sometimes an admirable trait, but in many ways it’s very unhealthy and it doesn’t do much good. A person …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: Deciding to just do it Doing hard things When your mind and body aligns Inspiring and motivating others Key takeaways: You can either take all this time to prepare to do the thing or you can decide to just do it and jump in, knowing that you can complete it. Do difficult activities that remind you that …
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: What are reference groups? How reference groups can help Clearing your energy Empowered to choose Key takeaways: Your reference group is the people that you associate yourself with, the people that heavily influence you and greatly relate to you in your season of life. Having a reference group can inspi…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: You need grace The cure for perfectionism Getting to the root cause Liberation from rumination Key takeaways: Everybody needs grace, even you. It will help you cope with the most common phenomenon in all human beings: failure. Without grace, you can’t grow as a human being. Giving grace is all about rel…
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In this episode, Cheddy, Michelle, and Amanda discuss: Putting yourself in an all-in situation Self Betrayal Investing in yourself too Focusing on the “who” The great value of your failures Key takeaways: Putting yourself in an “all-in” situation is a high-level motivation. The knowledge that you “can’t NOT do it” means that you’re going to have to…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: What is motivation Tactics that would inspire us into taking action Mindset for action Identifying your goals and your whys Key takeaways: Motivation is a feeling. It is a sensation that you are inspired to take action, and accomplish something. There are four tactics that you can deploy in order to get…
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Luke Wright:Don’t Find an Excuse, Find a Way! In this episode, Cheddy, Michelle, and Luke discuss: Dreams that require sacrifices Responding to being demoted, fired or let go Holding people accountable How to best help the youth Key takeaways: Your dream will require sacrifices. Sometimes, you’ll be given a choice to sacrifice a once-in-a-lifetime …
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In this episode, Cheddy, Michelle, and Detective Kevin Doucette of the New Orleans Police Department discuss: Winning the war in your mind Responsibility and obligation Going beyond your limits Faith that will keep you moving forward Key highlights: On April 21st, 2020, Detective Doucette, a former U.S. Marine, and everyday hero, was shot in the li…
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In this episode, Cheddy and Michelle discuss: The conscious and subconscious aspects of self-talk Intentionality and consistency Making positivity a daily habit Thinking positively versus lying to yourself Key takeaways: Self-talk has a conscious and subconscious aspect to it, and it is often grounded in your belief about yourself. Managing your in…
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