Scared Confident podcast

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Two driven spouses. One giant fight. And a psychologist who helped us see it all differently. In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany sits down with Dr. Doug Brackmann, a psychologist who’s spent decades helping high-achievers stop self-sabotaging and start living with more connection, clarity, and peace. Together, they unpack what it really means to be “driven”—and how that same intensity that fuels your success can quietly create emotional disconnection in your closest relationships. Sound familiar? You’re not alone. This conversation gets real about the cost of emotional isolation, what happens when two high performers try to do marriage, and why vulnerability is actually a power play—not a weakness. Dr. Doug brings the receipts: practical tools, mindset shifts, and a whole lot of truth to help you stop running on empty and start feeling more seen—in work and in life. Key Takeaways: How drive can be your superpower and your kryptonite Why high performers struggle with intimacy and what to do about it The surprising freedom that comes from being real (even when it’s messy) Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (03:23) Balancing family and career (04:14) The struggles of Driven personalities (05:40) Marriage dynamics and challenges (10:00) Therapy and personal growth (24:08) Book recommendations and initial reactions (24:42) Understanding male and female dynamics (26:38) The power of vulnerability (30:46) Practical relationship advice (36:49) Key takeaways…

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You Want to Grow—So Why Are You Still Holding Back? 37:52

πριν 9 μέρες37:52

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Link to book your call with Brian. In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany Sauder teams up again with Brian Kavicky, seasoned business advisor and sales leadership expert at Lushin, for a candid coaching session with Kenzie Kittle, founder of a boutique social media marketing agency. Kenzie openly discusses her challenges as a risk-averse entrepreneur aiming to scale her business without sacrificing quality or losing control. Juggling entrepreneurship and motherhood, she shares her fears and hesitations about growth. Brian provides direct yet supportive insights, helping Kenzie rethink her approach to risk and decision-making. Together, they explore practical ways to overcome fears, embrace niche strengths, and confidently handle growth challenges. Key Takeaways: Evaluating risk through manageable steps Overcoming perfectionism and control Embracing niche markets as an advantage Prioritizing the confidence to adapt over perfectionism If you liked this episode, check these out: Why You Keep Getting in Your Own Way with Brian Kavicky: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/why-you-keep-getting-in-your-own-way-with-brian-kavicky/id1555762235?i=1000699007463 Why You Feel Alone as a Leader: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/why-you-feel-alone-as-a-leader-with-brian-kavicky/id1555762235?i=1000691798469 How to Ask for the Support You Deserve (Without Feeling Guilty): https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-ask-for-the-support-you-deserve-without/id1555762235?i=1000684215858 How to build confidence when cash flow is tight: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-build-confidence-when-cash-flow-is-tight-with/id1555762235?i=1000680122886 Dealing with Perfectionism and Overwhelm: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/dealing-with-perfectionism-and-overwhelm/id1555762235?i=1000672484253 5 Lessons to help you win in life and business: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/5-lessons-to-help-you-win-in-life-and-business-with/id1555762235?i=1000669261940 The secret to unlocking success for women in business: https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/the-secret-to-unlocking-success-for-women-in/id1555762235?i=1000676041726 Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (03:02) The journey from consultancy to boutique agency (05:26) Challenges and fears of scaling a business (08:13) Operational constraints and delegation (16:42) Overcoming anxiety and taking risks (19:06) Owner's responsibility and fear of scaling (20:09) Choosing clients wisely and taking risks (22:04) Evaluating and accepting risks (27:02) The value of a niche and scaling challenges (30:29) Balancing growth and personal life…

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What’s Next: Big Moves, Bold Goals, and Scaling the Life of And 9:22

πριν 16 μέρες9:22

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What do you do when the role that once defined you… no longer fits? For 20 years, Tiffany built and led Element Three. Now, she’s stepping fully into what’s next— scaling the Life of And and making a bigger impact than ever. In this episode, she shares the real and raw behind-the-scenes of this shift— why she’s betting big on the Life of And project, how she’s turning this vision into reality, and why it matters for ambitious women like you. She also breaks down the decision to rebrand Scared Confident to The Life of And Podcast and reveals what’s ahead— corporate partnerships, speaking, curated events, and practical tools to help professional women create a life that actually works. And yes—she’s giving you full permission to outsource the mundane (like laundry) so you have time for what actually matters. Timestamps (00:00) Intro (01:02) Transition from Element Three (01:26) The Life of And Project (03:39) Rebranding the podcast (04:40) Corporate partnerships and digital course (05:53) Speaking engagements and events (07:00)From career to content creation Tired of living a life of have to and ready to build a life of want to? The Life of And Academy is here to help professional women take control, create sustainable systems, and design a life where career, family, and personal ambitions fit together—without the overwhelm. Join now and connect with a powerful community of like-minded women! ✨ 👉 Join the Life of And Academy: https://tiffany-sauder.mykajabi.com/offers/nDF7LnCR…

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Stepping Away but Not Stepping Back: My Transition from CEO to Founder 35:50

πριν 23 μέρες35:50

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What happens when the thing you’ve built for 20 years… is no longer yours to lead ? In this episode, Tiffany opens up about the emotional and strategic journey of stepping down as CEO of Element Three and into a founder role . She shares the fears, identity shifts, and hard truths she had to face—realizing she thrives in the messy startup phase, not in scaling a business. From the importance of trust in leadership transitions to the courage it takes to step back , Tiffany gets real about what it means to let go, create space for others, and embrace the unknown. Plus, she teases what’s next as she leans into her Life of And project, helping women move from a life of “have to” to “want to.” Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (00:52) Announcing the leadership transition (04:09) Reflecting on 20 years of growth (05:28) Reasons behind stepping down (11:26) Choosing the right successor (14:42) The founder role and continued involvement (23:16) Personal and professional identity shift (29:30) Legacy, advice, and future plans Tired of living a life of have to and ready to build a life of want to? The Life of And Academy is here to help professional women take control, create sustainable systems, and design a life where career, family, and personal ambitions fit together—without the overwhelm. Join now and connect with a powerful community of like-minded women! ✨ 👉 Join the Life of And Academy: https://tiffany-sauder.mykajabi.com/offers/nDF7LnCR…

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Why You Keep Getting in Your Own Way with Brian Kavicky 34:06

πριν 4 weeks34:06

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Link to book your call with Brian. In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany Sauder sits down with Brian Kavicky, business advisor and sales leadership expert with Lushin, to unpack the hidden beliefs that shape our actions—and how they might be keeping us stuck. Tiffany and Brian explore why so many of us feel exhausted, overwhelmed, or unable to enjoy our success. Whether it’s the pressure of taking care of everyone else, struggling to give yourself credit, or feeling paralyzed when facing change, Brian breaks down the real reason behind these challenges: the beliefs we’ve internalized about ourselves. Through real-life examples, listener questions, and Brian’s direct coaching, this episode explores the powerful link between what we believe and what we experience—and how to take back control of our mindset. Key Takeaways: How your brain proves your beliefs right—even when they’re working against you The three negative self-talk patterns that keep you stuck Why ‘I don’t know where to start’ is never actually true How to break free from limiting beliefs and reclaim your joy If you liked this episode, check these out: Why You Feel Alone as a Leader https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/why-you-feel-alone-as-a-leader-with-brian-kavicky/id1555762235?i=1000691798469 How to Ask for the Support You Deserve (Without Feeling Guilty): https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-ask-for-the-support-you-deserve-without/id1555762235?i=1000684215858 How to build confidence when cash flow is tight: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-build-confidence-when-cash-flow-is-tight-with/id1555762235?i=1000680122886 Dealing with Perfectionism and Overwhelm: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/dealing-with-perfectionism-and-overwhelm/id1555762235?i=1000672484253 5 Lessons to help you win in life and business: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/5-lessons-to-help-you-win-in-life-and-business-with/id1555762235?i=1000669261940 The secret to unlocking success for women in business: https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/the-secret-to-unlocking-success-for-women-in/id1555762235?i=1000676041726 Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (01:09) What are we giving power to? (02:52) How beliefs shape reality (03:42) Why your brain seeks proof for what you already believe (06:07) Three common struggles—and why they all come from the same place (08:15) The ‘devil’s tongue’ and the root of negative self-talk (10:46) How your body signals your mindset (12:30) The hidden cost of taking care of everyone else (16:03) Why you don’t give yourself credit—and how to change that (19:08) The fear of disrupting your relationships by wanting more (26:34) Why confusion is often an excuse to avoid action (30:57) How asking for help creates clarity—and why most people don’t do it (32:39) A simple exercise to override negative self-talk…

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What’s Sabotaging Your Dreams—and How to Stop It 24:55

πριν 5 weeks24:55

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What if the biggest thing holding you back… is you ? In this episode, Tiffany gets real about the hidden fears and limiting beliefs that sabotage your biggest dreams —like the fear of disappointment, the comfort of complaining, and the excuse that you’re “too busy” to want more. She shares her own struggles in a season of change and the mindset shifts that helped her stop getting in her own way. If you’re stuck, playing small, or waiting for someday , this conversation will give you the push you need to break free from self-sabotage and take action. Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (01:21) Identifying obstacles to your dreams (02:31) Personal journey and transition (04:15) Common belief obstacles (08:05) Strategies to overcome self-sabotage (14:17) Mindset shifts for growth (24:44) Taking the first step For more from Tiffany, you can sign up for her newsletter…

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Unlocking Financial Freedom In Your Home with Cara Macksoud 48:16

πριν 6 weeks48:16

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Are your financial conversations empowering your relationships or tearing them apart? Join us for this episode where Tiffany and Cara Macksoud, CEO of Money Habitudes, delve into the intricate dance between money and relationships. In their conversation, you’ll discover how to transform financial discussions into powerful tools for growth and unity rather than sources of conflict and stress. If you’re looking for more advice on how to achieve balance in a two-career home, sign up for Tiffany’s newsletter where she shares tips, how-to’s and encouragement for those living a Life of And . Connect with Cara Website: https://www.moneyhabitudes.com/ LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/caramacksoud/ Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (04:15) Reconnecting as co-parents for grandchildren (08:00) Motivation for successful financial planning (10:23) Understanding each other's financial desires and goals (14:12) Deep conversations about money and life goals (18:45) Psychological aspects of financial planning (27:58) Real-life examples of financial disagreements (31:42) Overcoming societal pressures about money (36:11) Concept of "loud budgeting" (40:07) Impact of debt, addiction, and divorce on wealth (45:30) Financial infidelity and its consequences For more from Tiffany, you can sign up for her newsletter…

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Doing It All Starts With Doing Less: The Power of Trading Time 14:17

πριν 7 weeks14:17

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In this episode, Tiffany unpacks the myth of "doing it all" and why saying yes to everything can lead to burnout and misplaced priorities. She shares a practical framework for assessing commitments, making intentional choices, and structuring time in a way that allows for both ambition and balance. Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (01:09) The myth of having it all (01:21) Effective time management strategies (02:17) Proactive planning for busy moms (03:34) Batching tasks for efficiency (06:05) Evaluating the true cost of commitments (09:41) Delegating and sharing responsibilities (12:58) Creating a Life of And (13:33) Embrace your finite time For more from Tiffany, you can sign up for her newsletter…

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Why You Feel Alone as a Leader with Brian Kavicky 43:29

πριν 8 weeks43:29

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Link to book your call with Brian. In this episode of Scared Confident, Tiffany Sauder invites listeners into a behind-the-scenes coaching session between Rachel Downey, CEO of Share Your Genius, and Brian Kavicky, business advisor and sales leadership expert with Lushin. As Rachel works to scale her company, she faces a familiar founder challenge - how to transition from being the driving force behind everything to leading a team that can execute without her. Rachel opens up about the pressure of hitting big business goals, the struggle to delegate with confidence, and the tension of watching her team do things differently—sometimes not as well as she would. Brian offers direct, practical coaching on how to let go of perfection, set a culture of accountability, and create space for her team to grow through failure. This episode explores how founders can trust their teams while maintaining high standards and why learning to let go is a crucial step in long-term growth. Key Takeaways: Why 80% done by your team is better than 100% done by you How to hold your team accountable without micromanaging The role of failure in learning—and how to use it as a leadership tool How to shift from founder to CEO by redefining success If you liked this episode, check these out: How to Ask for the Support You Deserve (Without Feeling Guilty): https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-ask-for-the-support-you-deserve-without/id1555762235?i=1000684215858 How to build confidence when cash flow is tight: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/how-to-build-confidence-when-cash-flow-is-tight-with/id1555762235?i=1000680122886 Dealing with Perfectionism and Overwhelm: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/dealing-with-perfectionism-and-overwhelm/id1555762235?i=1000672484253 5 Lessons to help you win in life and business: https://podcasts.apple.com/gb/podcast/5-lessons-to-help-you-win-in-life-and-business-with/id1555762235?i=1000669261940 The secret to unlocking success for women in business: https://podcasts.apple.com/ph/podcast/the-secret-to-unlocking-success-for-women-in/id1555762235?i=1000676041726 Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (01:54) Rachel's business challenges (04:25) The urgency and pressure that founders face (07:03) Defining success and accountability (10:52) The importance of communication (16:44) Balancing leadership and delegation (23:12) Team performance and client satisfaction (23:29) Accepting imperfection in leadership (24:29) Balancing quality and client expectations (26:59) Learning from failures (31:11) Client relationships and transparency (38:39) Managing pressure and expectations…

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Goals Without Guilt: The Mindset Shift Every Mom Needs 17:56

πριν 9 weeks17:56

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In this episode, Tiffany reflects on the challenges of traditional goal setting and why the SMART goal framework, particularly the time-bound aspect, can create an endless cycle of frustration. Sharing personal insights on balancing ambition, family, and personal growth, she explores a more flexible and sustainable approach to achieving goals. Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (01:33 Why goal-setting feels like an endless loop (03:05) SMART goals and their limitations (04:33) Making goals explicit (06:59) Balancing family and personal goals (08:56) The problem with time-bound goals For more from Tiffany, you can sign up for her newsletter…

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Grandma’s Wisdom and the Journey to an Intentional Life 33:29

πριν 10 weeks33:29

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In this episode, Tiffany reflects on the power of belief and how it shapes the life you want to create. Sharing personal lessons from her grandma and practical insights on family, personal growth, and navigating fear, this episode inspires listeners to take control and create the life they truly want. Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (01:48) Reflecting on 2025 so far (03:23) Lessons from grandma Marcella (11:48) Parenting and technology (20:31) Excitement for 2025 and personal growth (27:26) Believing in your dreams Resources: For more from Tiffany, you can sign up for her newsletter…

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How to build lasting wellness and redefine health with Ashley Fillmore 46:38

πριν 11 weeks46:38

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Ashley Fillmore , Founder and President of Metabolic Fix™ , joins Tiffany to share her step-by-step approach to lasting health for women over 35. Ashley reveals her journey through unhealthy dieting and metabolic damage and explains how she helps clients repair their metabolism, balance hormones, and find energy that sustains their busy lives. Together, they discuss Ashley’s three-phase wellness program, which focuses on resetting metabolic health, rebuilding a solid foundation through nutrition and strength training, and finally reaching sustainable results. For more from Tiffany, sign up for her newsletter. Connect with Ashley: Website Podcast Instagram Timestamps: (00:00) Intro (05:17) The importance of a “no excuses” approach(07:12) The concept of metabolic adaptation(08:00) Ashley’s personal struggles with staying healthy(11:50) Getting started with healing your metabolism(17:28) Self-care advice for busy individuals(25:32) Understanding metabolic damage(26:14) The Repair Phase: Evaluating your metabolism(36:01) Rebuild Phase: Strength training and nutrition(36:30) Results Phase: Achieving sustainable weight loss(36:56) Realistic timelines for transformation(39:58) Balancing health and life's challenges(43:16) You can’t do it all…

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How to Ask for the Support You Deserve (Without Feeling Guilty) 40:41

πριν 12 weeks40:41

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📅 Ready to take action? Book time with Brian Kavicky today: Schedule Here Are you burned out from juggling career, family, and endless household demands? In this episode, Tiffany hands the mic to her trusted coach, Brian Kavicky, to address one of the most common questions from high-performing families: How do I ask for help and resources to support my family—and myself—without guilt? Brian unpacks the mindset blocks that hold us back, explores why these conversations often feel so hard, and shares actionable strategies to shift your thinking and make the ask effectively. Whether you’re struggling to redistribute household responsibilities or considering outsourcing tasks, this episode is packed with insights to help you feel confident and empowered. What You’ll Learn: Why guilt and outdated expectations often block us from asking for help The emotional “blinks” that prevent us from taking logical steps Three practical ways to start the conversation with your partner or family Why investing in support isn’t selfish—it’s essential 🎧 Listen Now and Take the Next Step: If you found this episode helpful, don’t keep it to yourself—share it with a friend who needs this conversation too! Connect with Brian: Book a Session with Brian Stay Connected with Tiffany: Instagram: @Tiffany.Sauder Sign up for her newsletter here to get the inside scoop…

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Declutter Your Space, Clear Your Mind with Laurie Palau 45:17

πριν 13 weeks45:17

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Is clutter holding you back from living your most abundant life? In this episode, Tiffany sits down with professional organizer Laurie Palau to unravel the deep connections between our physical spaces, mental energy, and overall well-being. Laurie shares her inspirational journey from being a stay-at-home mom to becoming a successful entrepreneur, and how she navigated the guilt and responsibilities that came with balancing motherhood and a career. She also offers actionable advice on tackling emotional clutter, starting with your closet, and breaks down her systematic approach to decluttering with a manageable four-pile method. If you’re looking for more advice on how to achieve balance in a two-career home, sign up for Tiffany’s newsletter where she shares tips, how-to’s and encouragement for those living a Life of And . Connect with Laurie LinkedIn: https://www.linkedin.com/in/simplyborganized/ Website: https://simplyborganized.com/meet-laurie/ Listen to her podcast, This Organized Life: https://simplyborganized.com/this-organized-life-podcast-3/ Check out her book, Hot Mess: https://www.amazon.com/Hot-Mess-Practical-Getting-Organized/dp/0692921621 Timestamps: [00:00] Intro [06:25] Guilt and challenges faced by women choosing to stay at home or work [14:35] Impact of clutter on relationships and importance of communication [20:15] Importance of behavior change for effective organization [31:10] Challenges of implementing family-wide organizational plans [42:20] Emotional clutter and managing sentimental items…

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Strategies to get Unstuck in 2025 19:03

πριν 14 weeks19:03