Τα καλύτερα Skylar podcast (2023)

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[EP:44] Trump or No Trump, Vaccine or Unvaccinated, Black or White, Asian or Not, Rape, Sexual Harassment- What happened to that conversation? - Amber B Skylar 55:44

2y ago55:44

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I got depressed this week, didn't even do my Wednesday episode. The politics of vaccines, mask fights, people judging each other on whether or not they like Trump or republicans, are the democrats more caring, will doctors really stop treating people without a vaccine? We talk about freedom to choose and yet we are still battling the issue of abort…

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[EP:43] The most popular hashtags # is for women? I'm disappointed. - Amber B Skylar 30:08

2y ago30:08

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When I reached out to my marketing team months ago, I was trying to better understand hashtags. The ones I chose were good, or so I thought. What I have learned when doing research on - what are the most popular hashtags for women - I was blown away. amberbskylar.com - contact admin@amberbskylar.com #voiceofamber #voicesofwomen #womensrights #metoo…

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[EP:42] Taliban Bullies Fear Educated Women - Amber B Skylar 51:14

2y ago51:14

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War is going on all over the world and with it comes rape of women and children. Not only do we keep women uneducated in some cultures like the Afghanistan Taliban regime,(Islamic militants) we use them like Mommies to cook, clean, and make them cover themselves all under the name of "God" or Allah - or be subjected to stoning, jail, and beheadings…

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[EP:41] Hollywood's Influence on Women - Amber B Skylar 49:14

2y ago49:14

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A good thing about 2021 is that we have more vehicles of communication than ever before. I am 59 now and my entire life I've felt like and been treated like a second class citizen. When you think about this stuff alone, you feel alone, and maybe even crazy (in the negative way). But more and more movies and documentaries are talking about #metoo #w…

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[EP:40] Forgiveness. I'm just not feeling it. - Amber B Skylar 41:27

2y ago41:27

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I do not believe that I need to forgive anyone who has hurt, abused, disrected and harmed me in any way. I sometimes think that forgiveness is used as a cop out - for example, trying to get victims to look the other way, like religious leaders who have asked victims to talk about what happened and then to forgive their attacker. Victims have been e…

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[EP:39] Embrace the Crazy. #Justdoit - Amber B Skylar 50:23

2y ago50:23

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Nike created an ad campaign called #Dreamcrazier - Just do it inspired by the treatment of female athletes who get emotional. I'm so tired of being told that I am "dramatic" because I express emotion. Not just by men, but by scared, compliant females who need a man to complete them. Even my own brother tries to diminish my expression of anger and c…

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[EP:38] Get involved. Fight back. Take a stand- Amber B Skylar 43:10

2y ago43:10

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Predators seek out vulnerability. Society starts training females at a young age to be sweet, feminine, naive and charming. We are trained that we are not strong enough to hear truth about whats going on with violence against women. We are not encouraged to fight violence with violence. Why? A woman alone, carrying groceries to her car at night. A …

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[EP:37] The Good Girl - Amber B Skylar 45:11

2y ago45:11

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For a very long time now, females have learned that one of the ways to survive or to achieve more success, they had to be "good". What does that mean exactly? Maybe it helped generations of women in the past, in terms of survival, but will it really help future generations? I think not. #amberbskylar #voiceofamber #veteran #metoo #ptsd #mentalhealt…

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[EP:36] I'm "not" sorry - Amber B Skylar 47:37

2y ago47:37

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I'm tired of apologizing for things that I do not need to apologize for. Women have a tendency to quickly apologize for too many things. I realize after doing this podcast that I have been apologizing my entire life for just being female. Even though at times - I'd be burning up with rage or anger for some injustice and I'd hold it in with an apolo…

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[EP:35] Acceptance. My current coping mechanism. - Amber B Skylar 57:38

2y ago57:38

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I've had the hardest time actually accepting that I am disabled from Chronic Post Traumatic Stress. When I hear words like "mental illness" even though I know its not an illness, I have cringed over the years of my growth, telling myself I was going to "fix this". I actually had a plan to clean myself up and change - just like that. Only recently, …

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[EP:34] Happiness, Addiction and Coping Mechanisms - Amber B Skylar 1:03:10

2y ago1:03:10

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I cannot wrap my mind around the sale of happiness. It's everywhere. It's in our constitution - the pursuit of happiness. What is striking to me, is that we do not sell or market/promote our right to feel safe, to face our emotional pain without scrunity, judgment, and shame, and its the excruitiating amount of time it takes for human evolution to …

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[EP:33] Call for stories - Amber B Skylar 54:01

2y ago54:01

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In the fall/winter 2022, I will be organizing a few events, perhaps a live call in event, and introducing 2-4 guests per month. I aspire to have a few series on Women and Religion, Religion and Sexual Violence, different types of trauma, like Institutional Trauma, Trauma and Substance Abuse/Use, Military Sexual Trauma, Sexual Trauma and Legal Syste…

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[EP:32] Stop Blaming and Start Claiming - Amber B Skylar 58:29

2y ago58:29

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As angry, depressed, triggered as I am, I feel it is vital, essential that victims rise up and claim their life back. How? Your voice. Your written and spoken word. Your actions in going after your abuser or attacker. Calling the police, filing reports, getting involved in victims assistance programs. I have said this over and over, it is hard eith…

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[EP:31] From PTSD to PTSG (Growth) - Amber B Skylar 48:11

2y ago48:11

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I heard this term PTSG from a friend. It's a term used for positive experiences associated with growing from PTSD. This episode will discuss my growth and how podcasting, writing, speaking helps me move forward (not pain free) as I live and evolve as a human being. #amberbskylar #voiceofamber #metoo #veteran #ptsd…

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[EP:30] Why am I doing this Podcast? - Amber B Skylar 53:58

2y ago53:58

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I've mentioned several times that I would talk about my choice to podcast and what motivates me to be so open. Im just tired of holding in all of the thoughts and emotions I have, as a mature women, determined to add my voice to the women's movement. Not perfect, not an expert, just a person listening to myself, looking at my life, looking at the w…

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[EP:29] I am a feminist. - Amber B Skylar 1:04:02

2y ago1:04:02

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I've been confused about feminism most of my life. Fear of rejection, judgment, retaliation. Fear of being left out. Fear of being harassed, hurt, stalked. Now after researching and learning about the powerful women before me who stood - alone - on the human playing field of life, I feel inspired to own my truth, accept responsibility for the outco…

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[EP:28] Slut Shaming - Amber B Skylar 1:00:45

2y ago1:00:45

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I'm all over the map on this topic. On one hand I know that females are not raped because of their clothing even though historically we tried to make the victims responsible because of what they were wearing. It was (and sometimes still is) a highly effective prosecutorial strategy to use against a rape victim, but I personally believe and especial…

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[EP:27] A Mouthpiece for Women - Amber B Skylar 59:26

2+ y ago59:26

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Did you know that in the 18th century, we used to put a hinged iron framework around a woman's head which gaged her into submission and silence? It was used to publicly humiliate her and to teach other women to keep their mouth shut. Is this hatred, fear, ignorance? How could a civilization be so cruel and do you feel better knowing we don't do it …

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[EP:26] The Dark Side of Yoga - Amber B Skylar 59:29

2+ y ago59:29

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It's important to keep your eyes wide open, in anything really. Yoga is just one activity that is easy to target people because of our romanticization of how things are done in the East. Most people believe yoga came from India. It did not. Furthermore, stop glamorizing India. Its treatment of women is deplorable. It was women who brought yoga to o…

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[EP:25] Is love really the answer, or? - Amber B Skylar 56:12

2+ y ago56:12

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We hear so often, that "love is the answer" and yet with the human capacity to love we still live in a violent world. How many times have you felt like you were "in love"? How many times have people told you that you have no choice in who you choose to love? Fate? Or are we limiting our ability to make choices based on fact, need, passion, and our …

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[EP:24] Marriage. I married myself. - Amber B Skylar 57:35

2+ y ago57:35

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Times have changed but "romance" is still in its infancy. Laws have changed but some states still hold to the religious ideals about marriage and how it's supposed to look instead of how it actually is. Men still blame women and women still blame men. Stop blaming and get smart before you get married. #amberbskylar #voiceofamber #metoo #ptsd #anxie…

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[EP:23] Gaslighting! When people try to make you sound crazy. - Amber B Skylar 58:01

2+ y ago58:01

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Have you ever felt you were being manipulated but did not listen to yourself? Have you ever felt like you were paranoid or crazy because you have a gut feeling, intuition, an inkling that something is off and you can't quite sort it out. Years ago, it was very easy to force a woman to comply as a housewife and mother by threatening her, telling her…

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[EP:22] Do you ever have premonitions, dejavu? - Amber B Skylar 1:00:45

2+ y ago1:00:45

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Have you noticed that when women have supernatural experiences we mock them. But a man named "Moses" for example can climb a mountain, have a supernatural experience and bam - he's an angel of God. Women have strong intuition, premonitions, dejavu, dreams, unexplained experiences that are minimized by the social order of religion and the sciences. …

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[EP:21] Designed to cry. It's intelligent actually - Amber B Skylar 56:55

2+ y ago56:55

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We really like to judge people when they cry. We stuff the emotion and it is stored on our body systems. No joke. In 2008 Rose -Lynn Fisher started a project to look at the molecular structure of tears and made a huge discovery. How long have we been shaming males for crying and judging women as "too emotional". Nonsense really. #amberbskylar #voic…

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[EP:20] Confrontation, Fight or Flee- Amber B Skylar 59:06

2+ y ago59:06

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I have strong personality. Being assertive and female has its own set of rules, even today. Yes, its changing as more women get into leadership roles and our environments still have engrained messages in our social landscape that attack our nature as females, whether we are strong and powerful, or quiet and accommodating. Confronting situations and…

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[EP:19] Distractions- Amber B Skylar 54:11

2+ y ago54:11

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I have learned how easy it is to get distracted. For women, I think its even easier because we are marketed (subliminally and overtly)to "have it all" and we deplete our resources by over committing, not using that road sign of "no". Even relationships can be a distraction. Social messages have been engrained in every sort of media, encouraging us …

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[EP:18] Stop Having Babies - Amber B Skylar 46:39

2+ y ago46:39

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Don't be a victim of accidental or irresponsible pregnancy. As women we have choices now. To raise is child is emotionally, financially and physically demanding. If you have the money to bring a child into the world, and a support system, and you actually are ready to have a child - go for it. But if you have not completed your education or created…

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[EP:17] Boundaries - Amber B Skylar 45:48

2+ y ago45:48

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Who taught you about having good boundaries especially when it comes to relationships? Why are we as women, still seeking a man as a protector, provider, even helper with the home and children? What about getting involved with strangers from online dating and not thinking about safety, but just sex or comfort, hoping for love and relationship? At m…

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[EP:16] No Is Just A Road Sign - Amber B Skylar 45:26

2+ y ago45:26

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I have learned or been exposed somehow to this notion that - No just means, "ok, let's turn around, let's go around, let's find a different path." However, "no means no" as it applies to rape, or "don't call me" are real boundaries. This episode refers to no as you did not get the job, or "no you are not invited," or "no we don't like you". I have …

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[EP:15] - Hope and Reality - Amber B Skylar 46:46

2+ y ago46:46

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I believe depression is a part of over-hoping that things will/may get better. It's a passive expectation or desire for change. This PODCAST highlights human and civil rights people who understand reality and that action is the path forward. Action will keep the flame of hope's possibility from fading.…

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[EP:14] Rock Bottom - Being Homeless - Amber B Skylar 1:08:46

2+ y ago1:08:46

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I've been homeless. Sometimes when you think you can't fall any further, you can. Human kindness prevailed as predators and unwilling souls were guides into my despair and ultimate revival of my spirit. We often think it's just the human kindness that uplifts, but the negative people can be strong motivators to get up and fight, reclaim our innate …

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[EP:13] Suicide, Do You Ever Think About It? - Amber B Skylar 1:06:54

2+ y ago1:06:54

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People get depressed. Really depressed. Life. Broken spirits, minds and weary bodies. Thinking about suicide is quite common. Most people just do not want to tell anyone or even talk about it. I have experienced a suicide attempt, and many thoughts of suicide. A therapist once said to me, "suicide is the minds way of knowing it can stop the pain". …

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[EP:12] Depression and Loneliness - Amber B Skylar 30:36

2+ y ago30:36

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It's natural to feel depression, loneliness. I have recently learned how damaging isolation can really be. I have recently learned the root cause of my depression. What is the difference? How do you know when you need medicine or not. Some folks will need medicine because a genetic biological predispostion renders a need for medicine and it can wor…

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[EP:11] PTSD, A Service Dog and Dating! - Amber B Skylar 33:22

2+ y ago33:22

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Its awkward to date in the first place, right? Add in "hi, I have PTSD. Oh and here's my Service Dog, Arbor". Service Dog aside, online dating has its perks, risks and a world of weirdos. Be careful out there! #caninecompanions #amberbskylar #voiceofamber #servicedog #veteranΑπό τον Amber B Skylar

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[EP:10] My Service Dog, Arbor - Amber B Skylar 33:51

2+ y ago33:51

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I'm not a medicine person. I've tried all sorts of medicine for mental health pain. I learned that medicine did not work for me and it was a psychiatrist who helped me understand. When you injure your knee, you may be prescribed a course of medicine for a period of time. In mental health we subscribe medicine, which can help for period of time, as …

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[EP:9] Living With PTSD and God - Amber B Skylar 32:13

2+ y ago32:13

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I remember as a little girl going to church and praying so hard for help for my mother. It never came. Only more suppression and "sinner bullshit". Then as an adult when I tried to tell church members that my husband was emotionally and physically abusive, I was told to "Turn the other cheek"! Once in high school, I was put in front of the entire c…

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[EP:8] PTSD and Rape - Amber B Skylar 49:31

2+ y ago49:31

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How does rape affect a person and contribute to post trauma? I think that even after your trauma, when you hear how prevelant rape is, in war, neighborhoods, college campuses, the military - it adds to the trauma. Being a victim of a violent crime that seems to be "normalized in the culture" is unacceptable. We must understand what people go throug…

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[EP:7] Hormones, Crazy, or PTSD? - Amber B Skylar 48:32

2+ y ago48:32

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How many times have you had for example, chest pain? What about overall body aches, low energy, depressed, etc. How many times have you heard "you look fine"? Or "It's your hormones". When you have a emotional, cognitive challenge like PTSD, its easy for medical staff to minimize your experience and if they can't justify doing a deep look into your…

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[EP:6] Baggage - Amber B Skylar 28:35

2+ y ago28:35

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Another victim "shaming" tool. We refer to a person's life as baggage. I prefer Gucci myself, (although) not affordable. But what I carry in my "baggage" is gold. Don't let someone refer to your life's experience as trash or baggage.Από τον Amber B Skylar

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[EP:5] Am I a Bitch Because I'm Angry? (Pt. 2) - Amber B Skylar 18:41

2+ y ago18:41

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In my experience, when I am assertive, or say no, or simply speak up, Im a bitch. Men's anger is more socially normal and acceptable. We've also taught men to "stuff it" or to grab a bottle of beer to cope. I choose being a bitch, if need be. I will assert myself and set and manage good boundaries.Από τον Amber B Skylar

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[EP:3] Happiness, Really? - Amber B Skylar 18:18

2+ y ago18:18

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Another victim shaming tool - the social media realm on happiness and all the "experts" with simplistic comments that can deter a struggling victim from feeling as if they do not fit in. I don't know about , but I get tired with the overwhelming messages out there telling me I need to be happy, should be happy, if I am happy then ...if Im not happy…

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[EP:4] Am I a Bitch Because I'm Angry? (Pt. 1) - Amber B Skylar 28:23

2+ y ago28:23

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Im ok with being called a bitch. Today, its not an insult. Women are embracing the "bitch energy". I know my point has come across when somebody calls me a bitch. In this episode I talk about my anger, and men's anger from my life, and I read from my book, Colors of Amber, A Memoir. We shame men for crying, we cheer them on for anger, stoicism, bei…

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[EP:2] Poor White Trash - Amber B Skylar 19:42

2+ y ago19:42

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Being poor - does have an impact on health and wellness. Don't let anybody sugar coat that. This podcast explores messages around being brought up poor and female and how those experiences turn into patterns that build on patterns of programs that are created by the environments we are exposed to. Through EMDR and type of therapy, I've been able to…

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[EP:1] Why Victims Blame Themselves - Amber B Skylar 21:49

2+ y ago21:49

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As a victim of trauma and many challenges, I'm tired of all the messages in the culture from childhood to present day that say ignorant things like "get over it" or " Its your Karma". If anyone takes that literally and many people do, then everything that's happened to you - is your fault. Lets talk about this.…

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