TFS#218 - Kyla Glendenning on How to Become a Magnetic Person & Attract New Friends Using Detachment

THE FLIP SIDE with Andy Mai

Kyla is a content creator focusing on personal growth, confidence-building, and mastering detachment. She shares practical tips on developing a magnetic personality, forming meaningful connections, and enhancing conversational skills.

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CHAPTERS:

0:00 - Introduction

1:00 - Meet Kyla

3:48 - Why Kyla moved to Fort Lauderdale

4:39 - Kyla's 49-state campervan road trip

5:32 - Budgeting for the trip

6:27 - Making money while traveling

6:49 - Starting on TikTok & Instagram

8:48 - Kyla’s focus over the past 6 months

9:33 - Kyla's dream life & how she plans to embody it

10:21 - How mastering detachment changed her life

11:11 - Learning personal development

12:34 - Applying detachment in relationships

13:11 - Growth rates in relationships

14:39 - Growing apart from high school friends

15:48 - Activities to attract like-minded people

16:54 - Making friends in coffee shops

18:04 - Being easy vs. easy to approach

19:54 - Wanting vs. giving attention

21:09 - Andy’s magnetic energy

24:36 - Old friends see Andy as intense

26:20 - Yearly cycle of outgrowing friendships

28:55 - Friends seeing you as your old self

30:39 - Handling confrontation socially

32:26 - Lessons from her road trip

33:32 - Rebuilding friendships differently

34:46 - Feeling lonely vs. feeling drained

36:09 - Andy solving loneliness by being his own best friend

38:23 - The kind of care Andy wants from a partner

42:09 - What makes Timothée Chalamet & Chris Hemsworth so magnetic?

46:13 - Becoming a more magnetic person

48:00 - Andy gravitates toward the most magnetic guy in the club

50:46 - Approaching new people

53:09 - Why people are more attracted to you when you've taken

55:53 - Confidence in kids with wealthy parents

58:04 - Playing the “Sibling Game”

1:03:24 - Why Andy thought Kyla was the youngest

1:04:38 - Why Kyla thought Andy was the middle child

1:06:06 - How the “Sibling Game” helps Andy understand people

1:07:36 - Unexpected lessons from Kyla’s 9-5 career

1:09:06 - Adapting to different couples’ comfort zones

1:13:15 - Andy predicts his female friends' future boyfriends

1:14:44 - Kyla on being seen as intimidating

1:16:27 - Letting friends be themselves

1:18:02 - Is Kyla more introverted or extroverted?

1:20:01 - Differences between introverts & extroverts

1:21:00 - Andy: Introverts = self-love, Extroverts = seeking external love

1:22:26 - Why Andy thinks being extroverted is bad

1:23:17 - Kyla on being interested in people while detached

1:25:20 - Not needing attention but being charismatic

1:26:42 - Maintaining the same persona in different settings

1:27:40 - Andy’s behavior in social settings

1:29:38 - How being himself attracts like-minded people

1:30:19 - Charismatic strategies for making new friends

1:33:04 - How Kyla met & married her partner

1:38:01 - Why all guys want a girlfriend in 2025

1:39:51 - Andy shares how he refrains himself from over-messaging magnetic girls to avoid looking desperate

1:42:04 - Matching energy & adding 10%

1:44:24 - Andy shares how accepting your feelings for someone is the only way to see their flaws

1:46:59 - Andy’s education company & e-commerce

1:48:48 - How raw TikTok content helped Kyla grow

1:50:41 - Differences between TikTok & Instagram growth

1:51:40 - Why content creators need an email list

1:52:05 - Advice on building an online community

1:54:49 - Creating engaging podcast clips

1:55:52 - Kyla’s recent life discoveries

1:56:19 - Personal goals for the next 6 months

1:57:52 - Tips for growing a small online community

1:59:42 - Connect with Kyla

1:59:59 - How Kyla creates her email newsletters

2:01:42 - Outro